I have come to an agreement via phone/conference. Nothing has been written in stone.
In the agreement one of his weeks has been eliminated (it is a time he has had with the children without an agreement for five years). He hasn't picked up on it.
I DO NOT want to keep him away from the children and I encourage his involvement at all times. That being said, when I make an effort to make compromises, he is not forthcoming.
He is going to blow a gasket when he realizes this week no longer exists. I say, not my problem, he signed knowing ...............the other part of me says it is about time I had some form of ammunition to perhaps work with him.
We live several hours away from each other. I have not had any holiday besides Xmas with the children. I would like to have Thanksgiving this year and I may actually get it with this clause, by using it as a form of negotiation.
That being said, I feel bad really. I would prefer things were honest and work from there. But I am dealing with a jerk. He can have the children over and above his time but he has never made an effort. And when he is supposed to take the children, he has declined (has to work to pay child support).
What to do?
In the agreement one of his weeks has been eliminated (it is a time he has had with the children without an agreement for five years). He hasn't picked up on it.
I DO NOT want to keep him away from the children and I encourage his involvement at all times. That being said, when I make an effort to make compromises, he is not forthcoming.
He is going to blow a gasket when he realizes this week no longer exists. I say, not my problem, he signed knowing ...............the other part of me says it is about time I had some form of ammunition to perhaps work with him.
We live several hours away from each other. I have not had any holiday besides Xmas with the children. I would like to have Thanksgiving this year and I may actually get it with this clause, by using it as a form of negotiation.
That being said, I feel bad really. I would prefer things were honest and work from there. But I am dealing with a jerk. He can have the children over and above his time but he has never made an effort. And when he is supposed to take the children, he has declined (has to work to pay child support).
What to do?
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