It's been almost 10 years...10 friggin years...
And the ex still says stupid things.
We don't have an order, as we have basically come to an understanding, that neither of us wanted to go to court. When things get tense, it gets talked about, but then it dies down.
So, we share custody. She has more time of course, because she would not budge from actually sharing the time, as she felt it meant more child support for her, at the time, and I'm the Dad, so I should be lucky I get as much time as I do.
Ex's attitude still hasn't really changed, when it comes to S9.
I pay her offset support - used to pay her full support, back in the days, for a few years, but basically told her, that's crazy. We have shared custody, you won't tell me how much you make, so I'm going to pay X dollars a month for offset. If you don't like it, take me to court, but since you're not providing your disclosure, I'm guessing you're still getting more than you would. So I'll take my chances.
She wouldn't provide her income. When she would, she stated she would only provide for a timeframe, when she was on maternity leave, with her 2nd child (duh...nice try).
She has full weekends with our son. When son is with me on weekends, she dictated this arbitrary "son must be back by Xpm" on Sunday, for me. It's BS...but whatever, we were doing that. I caved, to avoid crazy, and court, thinking, we could discuss it as time went on, and son gets older.
Everytime I try to discuss, that's a gong show.
It's come up more recently again. On weekend, son is with me. Ex is asking favour, about picking up son during my weekend with him, for her parent's celebration dinner. I could say no, but that would bring up BS again, and things have been okay for awhile, so why rock the boat.
Tell her "sure, that's fine, if I can drop him off after X time" because we already have plans right before. He'll be gone for a few hours. It's very disruptive, as it's smack in the middle of dinner/evening Sat. night. Ask if son can stay Sunday night, so we have more time. She has said yes, a couple of times before recently.
(Hmmm...I'm ranting a lot...maybe I should start new post)
And the ex still says stupid things.
We don't have an order, as we have basically come to an understanding, that neither of us wanted to go to court. When things get tense, it gets talked about, but then it dies down.
So, we share custody. She has more time of course, because she would not budge from actually sharing the time, as she felt it meant more child support for her, at the time, and I'm the Dad, so I should be lucky I get as much time as I do.
Ex's attitude still hasn't really changed, when it comes to S9.
I pay her offset support - used to pay her full support, back in the days, for a few years, but basically told her, that's crazy. We have shared custody, you won't tell me how much you make, so I'm going to pay X dollars a month for offset. If you don't like it, take me to court, but since you're not providing your disclosure, I'm guessing you're still getting more than you would. So I'll take my chances.
She wouldn't provide her income. When she would, she stated she would only provide for a timeframe, when she was on maternity leave, with her 2nd child (duh...nice try).
She has full weekends with our son. When son is with me on weekends, she dictated this arbitrary "son must be back by Xpm" on Sunday, for me. It's BS...but whatever, we were doing that. I caved, to avoid crazy, and court, thinking, we could discuss it as time went on, and son gets older.
Everytime I try to discuss, that's a gong show.
It's come up more recently again. On weekend, son is with me. Ex is asking favour, about picking up son during my weekend with him, for her parent's celebration dinner. I could say no, but that would bring up BS again, and things have been okay for awhile, so why rock the boat.
Tell her "sure, that's fine, if I can drop him off after X time" because we already have plans right before. He'll be gone for a few hours. It's very disruptive, as it's smack in the middle of dinner/evening Sat. night. Ask if son can stay Sunday night, so we have more time. She has said yes, a couple of times before recently.
(Hmmm...I'm ranting a lot...maybe I should start new post)
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