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Parenting Issues This forum is for discussing any of the parenting issues involved in your divorce, including parenting of step-children.

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Old 07-07-2014, 10:36 AM
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Also I am the OP - and we have been married for 4 years and together for 8.
I am staying out of it with her and him. Just trying to support him with some knowledge as he doesn't want to lose his visits.
I am wanting what's best for the kids. And the dad in their lives especially the teenage boy entering puberty is important.
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Old 07-07-2014, 05:11 PM
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so he split with his ex in 2009 and you have been with him for 8 years?? So he was cheating on his wife with you then?
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Old 07-07-2014, 05:29 PM
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No. He was finally divorced. He left he...we got together and then
married. At any rate this discussion is about her taking off with kids not about
their marriage which has been over for 8 years. Can we stay on point pls.
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Old 07-07-2014, 05:50 PM
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Hey everyone thanks for this great site.

Need some advice, with in my heart I have a feeling we have nothing left to do.

In a nutshell:

- Husband left (2) kids in 2009, separated, followed sep agreement and divorced moved to GTA; kids were in GTA of 30kms away; joint custody he every other weekend and 1 weeknight overnightt
- She had a house paid for but then moved out; moved to the most expensive part of town and now she has no money, no job, so wants to move
- trying to speak normally to her she blames the past for him leaving her 5 years ago
- he pays child support tables - but for some reason she think he makes more?
- 5 years later kids now (13) and (10) X wants to move 150 kms away up north
- she 5 years and still refuses to work and decided shes moving away for her happiness and the kids since he has missed all the kids things and he has not contributed to their lives
- X wants to move 150 kms away with no car and refuses to put a new access schedule as requested; instead insists on how horrible father he is and his contributions have been for 5 years so it doesn't matter and she will do what makes her happy and won't talk unless they sit down
- She truly believes that his current access to the kids means nothing
- She has been brain washing the kids saying if we move north you can do so much more but not see daddy anymore
- He wants to see his kids, he is a executive with a very time consuming job, and as such as requested a schedule of access in which she won't grant
- we sent a email saying we don't consent, and see lost her S** saying all the things you can imagine.

What is the best way to resolve this behaviour ?
this seems to contradict what you are saying about the timeline for when you got with him versus when he left his wife. Just pointing out inconsistences in your story. You say you have been with him for 8 years and married for 4.

if he already has a schedule for access then it should be followed unless its changed. He can request more time in summer or whatever.

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Old 07-07-2014, 05:57 PM
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My ex's g/f probably would say that she was with my ex for years before we were separated/divorced.

Integrity and credibility (or lack of) matters to some.

Often the "brainwashing" is what is told to the new partner.

Do yourself a favor and stay out of the matter.
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