Hi all,
Relatively calm considering more nonsense afoot. So need some opinions on this one please.
For those that don't know that background... here is is (in part).
My fiancee regularly paid substantial CS (12XX) and Daycare. occasionally the day care a bit late (like a day or a week - waiting for payday).
His ex would freak out if one day late.
(BTW: no receipts ever given to us and therefore can't claim any of the daycare tax back).
His ex went to FRO. I still don't why FRO got involved as there is no court order or notarized separation agreement just a VERY BAD self made separation agreement that doesn't clearly say anything useful. But the letter arrived and they recommended strongly voluntary participation. My fiancee not wanting to get in trouble agreed.
Problem is with FRO involved now he can't honour his full child support as the only dollar figure is $1,000 which is in reference to an amount he has to pay regardless of what his income is. (yes, you read that right - worlds stupidest agreement that was signed without legal rep/ without financial disclosure, and under duress) but anyways, this is $4XXless than his new line 150. But he is not allowed to pay her direct the remainder as he will get fined for doing so. All child support has to go through FRO even if it's the wrong amount.
Then we come to the Daycare dilemma. After weeks of back and forth
with Lawyers and FRO trying to determine if he can pay the daycare provider for his portion of the daycare or if he can pay his ex without fear of a fine for this - we finally are given the green light to make a payment to either. So we draft up a contract of payment and the Daycare provider signs it and takes the check. We inform the ex she is now paid in advance and has a credit with the daycare provider. Furious because she is not in control she scares the crap out of the provider or something as the next time we collect the children up the check is handed back !!!
So to sum it up we went from being caught up in day care to arrears again because they refused payment. We don't want to have to deal with the ex because as said before she regularly makes our lives a living hell.
Am I right in thinking we have a legal right to pay the daycare directly? And if they refuse payment???
Case conference in July... What will a judge make of this? Since we are already involved with FRO can we wait til an order is made to pay the arrears?
Relatively calm considering more nonsense afoot. So need some opinions on this one please.
For those that don't know that background... here is is (in part).
My fiancee regularly paid substantial CS (12XX) and Daycare. occasionally the day care a bit late (like a day or a week - waiting for payday).
His ex would freak out if one day late.
(BTW: no receipts ever given to us and therefore can't claim any of the daycare tax back).
His ex went to FRO. I still don't why FRO got involved as there is no court order or notarized separation agreement just a VERY BAD self made separation agreement that doesn't clearly say anything useful. But the letter arrived and they recommended strongly voluntary participation. My fiancee not wanting to get in trouble agreed.
Problem is with FRO involved now he can't honour his full child support as the only dollar figure is $1,000 which is in reference to an amount he has to pay regardless of what his income is. (yes, you read that right - worlds stupidest agreement that was signed without legal rep/ without financial disclosure, and under duress) but anyways, this is $4XXless than his new line 150. But he is not allowed to pay her direct the remainder as he will get fined for doing so. All child support has to go through FRO even if it's the wrong amount.
Then we come to the Daycare dilemma. After weeks of back and forth
with Lawyers and FRO trying to determine if he can pay the daycare provider for his portion of the daycare or if he can pay his ex without fear of a fine for this - we finally are given the green light to make a payment to either. So we draft up a contract of payment and the Daycare provider signs it and takes the check. We inform the ex she is now paid in advance and has a credit with the daycare provider. Furious because she is not in control she scares the crap out of the provider or something as the next time we collect the children up the check is handed back !!!
So to sum it up we went from being caught up in day care to arrears again because they refused payment. We don't want to have to deal with the ex because as said before she regularly makes our lives a living hell.
Am I right in thinking we have a legal right to pay the daycare directly? And if they refuse payment???
Case conference in July... What will a judge make of this? Since we are already involved with FRO can we wait til an order is made to pay the arrears?
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