I'm on my kids RESP money and my x wants to have his name on it so that he can get the money for my daughter's school. It's not his choice only as there are two parents plus my daughter. We couldn't co-parent when together. Close to $30,000 has been spent at 1 1/2 years of schooling with very few credits obtained. 28,000 of RESP has been spent and I did not want to pay full amount for first semester, but x said money is there, no stresses on her. I didn't agree but that's what he wanted. 2nd semester came and I said not paying since she bombed. She used her money that she had made throughout high school but was only able to get into 3 courses and she didn't even have enough for these. She worked very little in high school, not motivated to pick up extra shifts. Lacks complete motivation. Back in fall to school, general program, more RESP money spent, passed courses but said wasn't going back.
My lawyer is going to send a letter as I do have very good concerns, as my daughter has not worked last year (x gave money so why would she) nor this year, not sleeping well, and no job this year. Living with x. Lawyer is saying if he files for court he could file and go for more at court and we don't know if he is going to file for support and said if he takes me to court I will only have so much time to get things together. They don't want to go to court because of the costs and if my x wins I could be on the hook for the expenses re the schooling if that's all he goes for. My daughter is seeing a therapist and it's not that I don't want her to go to school but how can I support her at this point. She is doing nothing, just staying home. When I asked her to go look at the program with her to see where it would take her, jobs, money etc. she said no. Then asked in spring time are you looking forward to school and she said I hate school. Asked again in about a month, I'll just go do it. My other daughter says my x is pushing her to do it and she doesn't know what she wants to do. She is 20
She is seeing a therapist now re the sleep. She says her mind keeps racing and my therapist recommended if I could go talk to her but of course there is the privacy issues. I can't get ahold of my daughter, which I'm sure she is mad at me about this from what my x is telling her. Has been telling her lies. Even sent a letter from his lawyer lying in it and I can prove it. Not sure why he would do this?
The money does have to get out of the account as there is quite a bit of money in there and this would be the best year, but I'm thinking if I could have a plan that she should show some responsibility and be accountable. Se can get a job, or get a loan, and see how she does and go from there. My x has also told the kids the schools that they can go to, and it's not his decision.
My lawyer first said this is a parental matter but now legal with threatening court.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.
My lawyer is going to send a letter as I do have very good concerns, as my daughter has not worked last year (x gave money so why would she) nor this year, not sleeping well, and no job this year. Living with x. Lawyer is saying if he files for court he could file and go for more at court and we don't know if he is going to file for support and said if he takes me to court I will only have so much time to get things together. They don't want to go to court because of the costs and if my x wins I could be on the hook for the expenses re the schooling if that's all he goes for. My daughter is seeing a therapist and it's not that I don't want her to go to school but how can I support her at this point. She is doing nothing, just staying home. When I asked her to go look at the program with her to see where it would take her, jobs, money etc. she said no. Then asked in spring time are you looking forward to school and she said I hate school. Asked again in about a month, I'll just go do it. My other daughter says my x is pushing her to do it and she doesn't know what she wants to do. She is 20
She is seeing a therapist now re the sleep. She says her mind keeps racing and my therapist recommended if I could go talk to her but of course there is the privacy issues. I can't get ahold of my daughter, which I'm sure she is mad at me about this from what my x is telling her. Has been telling her lies. Even sent a letter from his lawyer lying in it and I can prove it. Not sure why he would do this?
The money does have to get out of the account as there is quite a bit of money in there and this would be the best year, but I'm thinking if I could have a plan that she should show some responsibility and be accountable. Se can get a job, or get a loan, and see how she does and go from there. My x has also told the kids the schools that they can go to, and it's not his decision.
My lawyer first said this is a parental matter but now legal with threatening court.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.
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