It's been a while since I have last posted. I hope I can get some advise again.
It's been over a year since my x gave me primary residence for our 6 year old daughter. Before that she withheld our daughter from me for almost two years while her new man played daddy.
When I first had my daughter move in she informed me of abuse she recieved while living with her mom and step father. i.e. forced hot sauce treatment, spanking, hitting her with kitchen utencils ect. This was all reported to CAS before she lived with me and when she first came. They did nothing and treated me and my partner like we were the bad guys.
About a week ago my daughter was involved in a situation with another child. Sexual in nature. This brought out alligations that her mothers man sexually abused her. Because I reported this in 2010 to CAS and nothing was done this time I called the police. They had an officer come over to interview my spouce (she was the one who our daughter told). They then involved CAS and did a 1.5 hour recorded interview with our daughter. They are now going to arrest my x's man and try to charge him.
I was advised my our current CAS worker to seek full custody. This is because the mom was aware of the abuse and did nothing. She stood by him and with the physical abuse stated she thought it was okay because they couldn't find anything else that worked. We DO NOT believe she will leave him even if it means loosing her daughter.
I really don't want to ruin my daughter's relationship with her mother but I need to protect her. Is full custody a good choice? And how to I go about changing a current court order?
Current order is joint custody with me having primary residence and her having access every other weekend. These visits are often cancelled. We live 2.5 hours away from each other. Last visit ended early because her mom couldn't take her to the hospital when she was having an alergic reaction to a needle. She claimed she couldn't because she has two other children to care for.
It's been over a year since my x gave me primary residence for our 6 year old daughter. Before that she withheld our daughter from me for almost two years while her new man played daddy.
When I first had my daughter move in she informed me of abuse she recieved while living with her mom and step father. i.e. forced hot sauce treatment, spanking, hitting her with kitchen utencils ect. This was all reported to CAS before she lived with me and when she first came. They did nothing and treated me and my partner like we were the bad guys.
About a week ago my daughter was involved in a situation with another child. Sexual in nature. This brought out alligations that her mothers man sexually abused her. Because I reported this in 2010 to CAS and nothing was done this time I called the police. They had an officer come over to interview my spouce (she was the one who our daughter told). They then involved CAS and did a 1.5 hour recorded interview with our daughter. They are now going to arrest my x's man and try to charge him.
I was advised my our current CAS worker to seek full custody. This is because the mom was aware of the abuse and did nothing. She stood by him and with the physical abuse stated she thought it was okay because they couldn't find anything else that worked. We DO NOT believe she will leave him even if it means loosing her daughter.
I really don't want to ruin my daughter's relationship with her mother but I need to protect her. Is full custody a good choice? And how to I go about changing a current court order?
Current order is joint custody with me having primary residence and her having access every other weekend. These visits are often cancelled. We live 2.5 hours away from each other. Last visit ended early because her mom couldn't take her to the hospital when she was having an alergic reaction to a needle. She claimed she couldn't because she has two other children to care for.
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