little background:
mother was under supervision order for 2.5 years
due to horrific abuse against my 3 young children.
last 6 months she has been given rapid access to the
children in the form of "every 2nd weekend" and "weds
evenings"
she was also given 2 x 1 week holiday access, 1 week
in july and 1 week in august.
while this increased access was occurring the children
were ordered to see a therapist selected by the mothers
and childrens lawyers ...
during the last 6 months of increased access the children
would say things to me like :
"dad, its not normal for children to be with there father,
children live with thier mom's"
"dad, why dont we live with our mother cause she's a girl
and were girls"
in heated discussions with the therapist the therapist got
really p1ssed at me and said "children should be with their
mother especially girls"
i was court ordered ( i would have done it without ) to give
their lawyers appointed therapist a list of 'rules' in my house , like bedtimes and internet and tv access'
to make my point consider my oldest had no internet access due to giving out her name/address and phone number to strangers inside games etc - i had intercepted a phone call from an adult women looking for her ... hence no internet until i got her enrolled into a internet safety course.
i sent the mother the concerns about internet and she agreed to implement same rule in her home , HOWEVER the mother took the list and basically removed any restrictions around the rules in my home, like "here's a laptop - surf the internet until you hit the end"
the childrens lawyer is known locally as CLERC , the local
men's group is sceptical of them as a 'mothers only' group
i am not having a positive experience with them either
alienation:
3 weeks ago life around the house was pleasent, however 2 weeks ago
upon returning from the week holiday with their
mother the oldest child (11) would not speak to me, she showed
utter contempt for me snearing when I asked her how her day
was ... i didnt press her but over the next week i asked her what she
wanted and she told me "i want to live with mom"
so i told her i would try and help and have now dropped her off
at her mothers to stay indefiently ... not heard from her sense
i complained to the children's lawyer who's only concern seems to
be "will she remain in same school ?"
i asked my lawyer to see if we can get "my oldest and me" into
therapy together in a couple of weeks once she cools off ...
i know this sounds negative but from (many) past experiences i
expect this to be filtered and smoothed over in court as sound something like " this child has simply shown a preference to live with the mother " and what i see as alienation will simply be lost ...
what else if anything can be done ? , if you read other posts of mine you will see my many lawyers are 'dosile' non combative - last week my lawyer offered no solution and simply stated "she hasnt won" ... the way I see it is there are no winners in any of this
help ?
mother was under supervision order for 2.5 years
due to horrific abuse against my 3 young children.
last 6 months she has been given rapid access to the
children in the form of "every 2nd weekend" and "weds
evenings"
she was also given 2 x 1 week holiday access, 1 week
in july and 1 week in august.
while this increased access was occurring the children
were ordered to see a therapist selected by the mothers
and childrens lawyers ...
during the last 6 months of increased access the children
would say things to me like :
"dad, its not normal for children to be with there father,
children live with thier mom's"
"dad, why dont we live with our mother cause she's a girl
and were girls"
in heated discussions with the therapist the therapist got
really p1ssed at me and said "children should be with their
mother especially girls"
i was court ordered ( i would have done it without ) to give
their lawyers appointed therapist a list of 'rules' in my house , like bedtimes and internet and tv access'
to make my point consider my oldest had no internet access due to giving out her name/address and phone number to strangers inside games etc - i had intercepted a phone call from an adult women looking for her ... hence no internet until i got her enrolled into a internet safety course.
i sent the mother the concerns about internet and she agreed to implement same rule in her home , HOWEVER the mother took the list and basically removed any restrictions around the rules in my home, like "here's a laptop - surf the internet until you hit the end"
the childrens lawyer is known locally as CLERC , the local
men's group is sceptical of them as a 'mothers only' group
i am not having a positive experience with them either
alienation:
3 weeks ago life around the house was pleasent, however 2 weeks ago
upon returning from the week holiday with their
mother the oldest child (11) would not speak to me, she showed
utter contempt for me snearing when I asked her how her day
was ... i didnt press her but over the next week i asked her what she
wanted and she told me "i want to live with mom"
so i told her i would try and help and have now dropped her off
at her mothers to stay indefiently ... not heard from her sense
i complained to the children's lawyer who's only concern seems to
be "will she remain in same school ?"
i asked my lawyer to see if we can get "my oldest and me" into
therapy together in a couple of weeks once she cools off ...
i know this sounds negative but from (many) past experiences i
expect this to be filtered and smoothed over in court as sound something like " this child has simply shown a preference to live with the mother " and what i see as alienation will simply be lost ...
what else if anything can be done ? , if you read other posts of mine you will see my many lawyers are 'dosile' non combative - last week my lawyer offered no solution and simply stated "she hasnt won" ... the way I see it is there are no winners in any of this
help ?
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