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#21
10-14-2021, 01:58 PM
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You had a “rule of 65” element to your case and she was approaching retirement which made it difficult. In a 25 year marriage where the ex doesn’t work (and probably didn’t work when the kids were young) it’s hard to argue non entitlement. 
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#22
10-14-2021, 02:23 PM
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Yes, I'm an "indentured servant" for an indefinite period of time. I think my only hope is to retire with no savings or pension and hope to be released from bondage.
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#23
10-14-2021, 02:59 PM
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his income is/was very good. etc. no issue of self-sufficiency.
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#24
10-15-2021, 11:52 AM
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There are 3 levels, nothing is written in stone and strict though:
low, mid and high when it comes to spousal support and there are varying ranges in each. The length of spousal support varies as well. The worst thing ever is the support for the rest of their life at some level. It is offensive that anyone would be forced into a lifetime of service to someone else because they were generous enough to let them be a househusband or housewife for 20 years. It is contradiction to say that a housewife's work has value and so should be compensated but after the marriage this value has no value when it comes to compensating the employed spouse.
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#25
10-15-2021, 12:16 PM
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Also- it's more than just the "housewife's work" - it's the sacrifice that person (male or female) made in furtherance of a family. Often times that person is sacrificing future earning potential if a decision is made that they will be the one to stay at home with the family.
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#26
10-15-2021, 12:42 PM
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And here’s where you lose sympathy. My mom stayed home because my dad was a traveling salesman. Someone had to be there for us until a certain age. As a result, she lost about 15 years in the workforce and necessary training (when she was ready to go back, computers had replaced typewriters). She worked at home on various odd jobs (research, assembly, craft support) but that wasn’t enough to support us. Meanwhile my father’s employment and income increased by 60%. Not to mention he refused to pay child support. Which meant he had to pay a monthly amount until she died. He complained about it all the time including a month after her death which was incredibly painful as she had been seriously ill. I had zero sympathy for him. Being a “housewife” is not easy. Hell, most of the complaints from people the last 18 months have been about their kids being home. One of you did stay home to keep house which allowed the other to advance in their career. Regardless of who made that decision or why, it isn’t fair to claim you are indentured. Your ex was technically indentured at home. Finding a job after losing several years at home isn’t easy. Whatever their reasons or excuses, many ex’s have the potential of no option of getting a good paying job because of the time lost.
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#27
10-15-2021, 01:11 PM
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I didn't ask for sympathy and it is not my situation.
I find it repulsive that one person is indebted in servitude to work for the other for many continuing years (life) while the other does not work at all. They sure as heck are not being imputed 60K/year. I have heard of guys working till they were 70+ years while for the previous 15 their ex had no responsibility for work and lived quite the fun life. That housework or whatever during the marriage is no longer provided and the court puts what monetary value on it? P.S. My ex didn't sacrifice anything, she simply didn't like her job and quit. I did more parenting and housework than they did.
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#28
10-16-2021, 02:47 AM
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Here is the kicker situation to compare against.
Married partners. One worked. One didn't. Working partner dies suddenly. No life insurance. No life time of support. At best the surviving spouse gets welfare. But, statistically speaking the majority go back to work and some how... survive and don't end up on the streets or die of starvation. Ultimately, there are very few "stay at home parents" and there are even less every year. At one point the concept of "spousal support" will be a historical event that people study as no one will be a "stay at home parent". Especially if inflation keeps on this pace... Here is a Forbes article that touches on the subject: https://www.forbes.com/sites/emmajoh...h=3732e7213eca Last edited by Tayken; 10-16-2021 at 02:57 AM.
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