I don't know how to begin. Have spoken to a lawyer many times. Keeps asking the same question, I keep giving her the answers. She has not done anything for 2 months and I took a break for awhile in pursuing the legal separation.
My Husband of 26 years is not living here now. It is quite complicated. I wish things were different, but they arent and that is why my name here is Accept. I need to be able to accept this in my life. We have a 20 year old and a 25 year old. They are struggling with all this too as their father seems to have left them as well.
My husband is not changing anything financially. We have a joint account and the mortgage is paid automatically and I pay the bills from this account as does he as far as I know.
I still use the joint credit card account.
I haven't worked for a few years due to a health issue and am not sure that I can ever work outside of the home again.
Everytime I mention a legal separation with a clear financial agreement, he mentions that he will make an appointment with a marriage counsellor...then doesn't. This has been ongoing for about a year and a half.
Like I say it is complicated and I don't feel like this is the right forum to explain all this complication.
I don't feel very safe financially as I don't have anything in my name and he can decide to not pay the mortgage and to not have his salary go to this account anymore.
I feel so much at his mercy and he is not straighforward with anything. He double talks and crazy makes so often, I don't know if I am coming or going.
My Husband of 26 years is not living here now. It is quite complicated. I wish things were different, but they arent and that is why my name here is Accept. I need to be able to accept this in my life. We have a 20 year old and a 25 year old. They are struggling with all this too as their father seems to have left them as well.
My husband is not changing anything financially. We have a joint account and the mortgage is paid automatically and I pay the bills from this account as does he as far as I know.
I still use the joint credit card account.
I haven't worked for a few years due to a health issue and am not sure that I can ever work outside of the home again.
Everytime I mention a legal separation with a clear financial agreement, he mentions that he will make an appointment with a marriage counsellor...then doesn't. This has been ongoing for about a year and a half.
Like I say it is complicated and I don't feel like this is the right forum to explain all this complication.
I don't feel very safe financially as I don't have anything in my name and he can decide to not pay the mortgage and to not have his salary go to this account anymore.
I feel so much at his mercy and he is not straighforward with anything. He double talks and crazy makes so often, I don't know if I am coming or going.
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