Final minutes of settlement signed.
Parenting:
I have sole custody. No restrictions. I will consult with him on all major decisions about her health and before I register her in a new school. I agree that where there is disagreement, we use our PC. If we don’t agree- I have final say.
We have a graduated parenting schedule that builds up to Wednesday nights, and EOW. All exchanges at school.
Holidays split even-steven, starting when she’s 6.
When she’s 5, he gets another afternoon for an after school activity- the activity has to be on mutual consent. He takes her, I pick up.
We will meet with our PC every month during the transitional schedule and once a year thereafter. When she’s 6 we will reassess access with the help of our PC. But MOS specifically states that these meetings do not constitute a material change in circumstances (I don’t know why fuck his lawyer didn’t object to that language). But whatever, in my view that’s actually what these meetings are for. I would rather pay our PC than lawyers.
Financial:
Judges position- I have a shit legal case(D.O.M. deductions effed me big time- and just in general as being the breadwinner paying for everything), but a strong argument in equity. She told us both to compromise. My lawyer was luckily aggressive as fuck and made the suggestion that we split the amount and put the entire amount into an RESP for D3. To be in both our names. For post secondary, the RESP will be deducted off the top. The remainder is a section 7 expense.
Judge told my ex to STRONGLY consider that a reasonable compromise.
So 60k apart. 30k from my ex’s share of the proceeds of the house goes to D3’s RESP.
Section 7s split 60/40. Two activities are included- up to $2000 a year. Anything beyond the 2 activities and medical and dental must be on consent.
And that’s all she wrote.
I thought I’d feel happier. I’m not. Just sad. But I am bit hopeful for our daughter.
Parenting:
I have sole custody. No restrictions. I will consult with him on all major decisions about her health and before I register her in a new school. I agree that where there is disagreement, we use our PC. If we don’t agree- I have final say.
We have a graduated parenting schedule that builds up to Wednesday nights, and EOW. All exchanges at school.
Holidays split even-steven, starting when she’s 6.
When she’s 5, he gets another afternoon for an after school activity- the activity has to be on mutual consent. He takes her, I pick up.
We will meet with our PC every month during the transitional schedule and once a year thereafter. When she’s 6 we will reassess access with the help of our PC. But MOS specifically states that these meetings do not constitute a material change in circumstances (I don’t know why fuck his lawyer didn’t object to that language). But whatever, in my view that’s actually what these meetings are for. I would rather pay our PC than lawyers.
Financial:
Judges position- I have a shit legal case(D.O.M. deductions effed me big time- and just in general as being the breadwinner paying for everything), but a strong argument in equity. She told us both to compromise. My lawyer was luckily aggressive as fuck and made the suggestion that we split the amount and put the entire amount into an RESP for D3. To be in both our names. For post secondary, the RESP will be deducted off the top. The remainder is a section 7 expense.
Judge told my ex to STRONGLY consider that a reasonable compromise.
So 60k apart. 30k from my ex’s share of the proceeds of the house goes to D3’s RESP.
Section 7s split 60/40. Two activities are included- up to $2000 a year. Anything beyond the 2 activities and medical and dental must be on consent.
And that’s all she wrote.
I thought I’d feel happier. I’m not. Just sad. But I am bit hopeful for our daughter.
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