Hi,
I'm looking for some clarification on procedure in a particular situation. Our separation agreement states that I have access to my daughters (ages 8 and 5) when I am done work on my access days. If I am not working on those days, they stay with me all day. With the youngest now starting kindergarten, I have accommodated my work schedule to be finished work when they are done school on my access days (2 pm every Wed. and every other Thurs.) So I am going to pick them up after school and bring them home. My ex is very upset and insists that they come after school on the bus to her home first and that she drive them to meet me at my standard non access time of day (4:30). To date because the youngest wasn't in school and my oldest was at a different school that was close to her Mom's house, my oldest went home on the bus (arriving home at 2:30 pm) and then 1 1/2 hrs later, they would leave to come to meet me at my work.
Now with my oldest in a new school and my youngest in school, if they go home on the bus, this means considerably more travel time for both of them on those days. If I pick them up from school, we have more time for supper/homework/swimming lessons, etc.
In summary;
Total time spent in car/transit by Dad picking them up:
Daughter 1: 45 minutes
Daughter 2: 30 minutes
Total time spent in car/bus/transit if they go to Mom's house after school on the bus:
Daughter 1: approx 1 hr 5 minutes
Daughter 2: approx 1 hr 15 minutes
Total time at Mom's home before having to get in car to go Dad's work:
Daughter 1: 1 1/2 hr
Daughter 2: 0 minutes
Ex is insisting that I can't do this. I think legally I can and it's in their best interests to save time and have our evenings less hectic and rushed. Separation agreement says I have access when I'm done work. I'm done work on those days, I plan to pick them up from school and bring them home.
Thoughts?
I'm looking for some clarification on procedure in a particular situation. Our separation agreement states that I have access to my daughters (ages 8 and 5) when I am done work on my access days. If I am not working on those days, they stay with me all day. With the youngest now starting kindergarten, I have accommodated my work schedule to be finished work when they are done school on my access days (2 pm every Wed. and every other Thurs.) So I am going to pick them up after school and bring them home. My ex is very upset and insists that they come after school on the bus to her home first and that she drive them to meet me at my standard non access time of day (4:30). To date because the youngest wasn't in school and my oldest was at a different school that was close to her Mom's house, my oldest went home on the bus (arriving home at 2:30 pm) and then 1 1/2 hrs later, they would leave to come to meet me at my work.
Now with my oldest in a new school and my youngest in school, if they go home on the bus, this means considerably more travel time for both of them on those days. If I pick them up from school, we have more time for supper/homework/swimming lessons, etc.
In summary;
Total time spent in car/transit by Dad picking them up:
Daughter 1: 45 minutes
Daughter 2: 30 minutes
Total time spent in car/bus/transit if they go to Mom's house after school on the bus:
Daughter 1: approx 1 hr 5 minutes
Daughter 2: approx 1 hr 15 minutes
Total time at Mom's home before having to get in car to go Dad's work:
Daughter 1: 1 1/2 hr
Daughter 2: 0 minutes
Ex is insisting that I can't do this. I think legally I can and it's in their best interests to save time and have our evenings less hectic and rushed. Separation agreement says I have access when I'm done work. I'm done work on those days, I plan to pick them up from school and bring them home.
Thoughts?
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