Hi everyone,
I'm new to the forum and I'm hoping to maybe get some advice. I have a 21 year old step daughter. She is sweet, smart and responsible. I have been around since she was small. Overall, we get along well considering her mom has never allowed us to get too close. She is going to college and she is able to cover all of her education costs with her earnings from work and OSAP. My husband was ordered to pay the table amount of support until she is finished with her studies.
So, she sent me a message the other day saying that her mom is charging her rent. Much more than she can afford since she is only working part-time and covering her education costs on her own. She pays all her own food, school costs, car insurance, phone, etc.. Her mom only supplies the basic place to sleep and shower. She treats her as a tenant instead of a daughter that is trying to make a good secure life for herself. We don't live in the same city as she does, so she can't move in with us free of charge because of her choice of school. I feel bad because she is being threatened that if she doesn't pay the rent, she will get things taken away such as wi-Fi and cable. She doesn't really need it because I said we would provide her with that. I told her not to give her mom money because her Dad is already paying to support her living at home and that she should not fear being kicked out because her mom wouldn't get money from him if she does kick her out.
I have a screenshot of the rant her mom sent her through messaging. She was calling my step daughter selfish and greedy when all she is trying to do is save her hard earned money to pay her education costs. I have a hard time accepting that a mother can be this way. Since she will already receive money from my husband and she should be contributing as well, she should not be charging my step daughter any rent/room and board. Her mom is telling her that my husband is trying to manipulate her to make her look bad when the only thing he is trying to do is help his daughter save her money by telling her she shouldn't be paying her mom anything since she is already receiving support. Her mom even tried to force her to get a second job just so she could pay her. If anything, her mother is the selfish and greedy one.
So my question is, is there something my husband can about this? Would a court look down on a mother who is doing this? It makes me so angry that a mother would put money ahead of her own daughter.
Anyway, thanks for any advice you all may have.
I'm new to the forum and I'm hoping to maybe get some advice. I have a 21 year old step daughter. She is sweet, smart and responsible. I have been around since she was small. Overall, we get along well considering her mom has never allowed us to get too close. She is going to college and she is able to cover all of her education costs with her earnings from work and OSAP. My husband was ordered to pay the table amount of support until she is finished with her studies.
So, she sent me a message the other day saying that her mom is charging her rent. Much more than she can afford since she is only working part-time and covering her education costs on her own. She pays all her own food, school costs, car insurance, phone, etc.. Her mom only supplies the basic place to sleep and shower. She treats her as a tenant instead of a daughter that is trying to make a good secure life for herself. We don't live in the same city as she does, so she can't move in with us free of charge because of her choice of school. I feel bad because she is being threatened that if she doesn't pay the rent, she will get things taken away such as wi-Fi and cable. She doesn't really need it because I said we would provide her with that. I told her not to give her mom money because her Dad is already paying to support her living at home and that she should not fear being kicked out because her mom wouldn't get money from him if she does kick her out.
I have a screenshot of the rant her mom sent her through messaging. She was calling my step daughter selfish and greedy when all she is trying to do is save her hard earned money to pay her education costs. I have a hard time accepting that a mother can be this way. Since she will already receive money from my husband and she should be contributing as well, she should not be charging my step daughter any rent/room and board. Her mom is telling her that my husband is trying to manipulate her to make her look bad when the only thing he is trying to do is help his daughter save her money by telling her she shouldn't be paying her mom anything since she is already receiving support. Her mom even tried to force her to get a second job just so she could pay her. If anything, her mother is the selfish and greedy one.
So my question is, is there something my husband can about this? Would a court look down on a mother who is doing this? It makes me so angry that a mother would put money ahead of her own daughter.
Anyway, thanks for any advice you all may have.
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