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    A good friend of mine is experiencing abusive behavior from his ex girlfriend. They have a 13 month old daughter, who has not been physically harmed but it is feared to only be a matter of time.


    She has been physically, verbally and emotionally abusive to my friend and has already been emotionally and verbally abusive to the child. She has called him at 3am saying he’s a bad parent for not answering her text, or knowing that the baby is awake. They never have lived together. She sends him voicemail of their daughter screaming and tells him she is a manipulative little b***h. Just to give a few examples.

    He is nervous that because he is the father he will not be taken seriously and she will be favored simply because she is the mother and the child is so young.


    Typically he has the baby about 60-70% of the time, as the mother works shift and on her days off will dump the baby on him because she is stressed, or wants to go out or wants to make sure he doesn’t go out. She is known by police for violent behavior.
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    My question would be to ask if anyone has any advice and if anyone can refer him to a lawyer who specializes in this kind of nonsense. As well if anyone has any background in CAS, would it beneficial to get them involved?<O</O

  • #2
    Save all voicemails, texts and emails. Document, document and document. If he fears for his child, he should call CAS, provide them with his evidence and let them do an investigation.

    He should never speak to her. He should allow all calls to go to voicemail. Should her call actually be an issue relating to the child, as in baby has a cold or something, he should reply in an email as if he was writing to the judge or his boss (civil, professional etc etc). If it is an emergency, he can call but check his emotions at the door.

    He will need to save all his evidence to show she is incapable of parenting should he end up in court. If CAS investigates and removes the child from her care, he should make an emergency motion to courts for temporary custody, supervised access to mom and child support.

    As for lawyer referals, knowing what city would help.

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    • #3
      Oops, that would be helpful. He's in the west end of Ottawa.

      He's trying not to talk to her, but she's crying wolf a lot and everything is an emergency these days. He's documenting everything and will be calling CAS or 911 the next time she gets abusive, which will likely be within the week.

      How much evidence does CAS need before starting an investigation? What do they need?

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      • #4
        Document all your concerns. The CAS will investigate but it still might not lead to much with out physical evidence. The child is too young to utter the magic phrase "I am scared of mommy".

        Record any crazy phone calls and never lose your cool.

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