Hi everyone,
Just completed the second round of custody evaluation. First round was completed the week the world shutdown last year and a judge granted me leave to seek an updated one ahead of trial in May of this year, based on the fact that too much time has passed, and many things have transpired over the year, including criminal charges for my ex, breaches of conditions, emotional stress on my children, etc.
The report turned out largely in my favour as the children have been subjected to a lot over the last year and they spoke up about it (feeling pressured, badmouthing of mom, being lied to, etc).
One child is adamant about not increasing time at dad’s house. The other child leans to a schedule that allows a minimal amount of extra time for dad, but suggests that they are unsure about it and recounts many situations in which they’ve been pressured by dad and don’t want to be subjected to the negativity when at dad’s.
In cases where the children don’t explicitly agree (although the one child is not very firm in their wishes), is a judge going to want to settle on one schedule for both children? Would they gravitate to the child whose wishes are more firm? I know nobody has a crystal ball, but just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation.
I should mention that my children are teenagers (13,15).
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Just completed the second round of custody evaluation. First round was completed the week the world shutdown last year and a judge granted me leave to seek an updated one ahead of trial in May of this year, based on the fact that too much time has passed, and many things have transpired over the year, including criminal charges for my ex, breaches of conditions, emotional stress on my children, etc.
The report turned out largely in my favour as the children have been subjected to a lot over the last year and they spoke up about it (feeling pressured, badmouthing of mom, being lied to, etc).
One child is adamant about not increasing time at dad’s house. The other child leans to a schedule that allows a minimal amount of extra time for dad, but suggests that they are unsure about it and recounts many situations in which they’ve been pressured by dad and don’t want to be subjected to the negativity when at dad’s.
In cases where the children don’t explicitly agree (although the one child is not very firm in their wishes), is a judge going to want to settle on one schedule for both children? Would they gravitate to the child whose wishes are more firm? I know nobody has a crystal ball, but just wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation.
I should mention that my children are teenagers (13,15).
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