This is more of a complaint than anything, but an annoying/anxiety causing issue nonetheless.
My daughter lives primarily with us, my partnerÂ’s daughter lives primarily with his ex. Our kids are very close, have spent time together pretty much every week for the past 3 years, play with all the same kids in the neighbourhood when they are both at our house, and are only 2 years apart. Their birthdays are also a week apart from each other.
My daughter really wants a big beach party this year. Her birthday falls on a weekday. My partnerÂ’s daughterÂ’s birthday falls on our weekend with her. There is no special clause in their court order for birthday access. We asked her the other day if she would like to go somewhere/do something special or if she would prefer to have a big beach party with my daughter. She excitedly chose the big party, so we have decided to do a big joint party for them on the weekend she is with us. We will invite the neighbours kids and will be letting them invite a couple friends each from school as well.
Easy enough, right? Nope. I am already anticipating the problems my partnerÂ’s ex is going to cause over this.
I want to ask my partnerÂ’s ex if I can drop off the invitations so they can get out to step-daughterÂ’s school friends before the school year is over, but I am dreading the response we are going to get.
She likes to be the one in control and I just know us planning a birthday party for their daughter- even though it is during my partner’s time- is going to set her right off. And we might as well just forget about it if she catches wind that it is a joint party with my daughter. “My daughter doesn’t need to share the spotlight with HER daughter” or something along those lines will be the response. Then she will begin to tell their daughter about some other, much better, grand massive thing that she has planned on that exact day and will make her call her dad and tell him that she has changed her mind and won’t be coming.
Ugh. Anyone else have an ex like this to deal with? How do you cope?
My daughter lives primarily with us, my partnerÂ’s daughter lives primarily with his ex. Our kids are very close, have spent time together pretty much every week for the past 3 years, play with all the same kids in the neighbourhood when they are both at our house, and are only 2 years apart. Their birthdays are also a week apart from each other.
My daughter really wants a big beach party this year. Her birthday falls on a weekday. My partnerÂ’s daughterÂ’s birthday falls on our weekend with her. There is no special clause in their court order for birthday access. We asked her the other day if she would like to go somewhere/do something special or if she would prefer to have a big beach party with my daughter. She excitedly chose the big party, so we have decided to do a big joint party for them on the weekend she is with us. We will invite the neighbours kids and will be letting them invite a couple friends each from school as well.
Easy enough, right? Nope. I am already anticipating the problems my partnerÂ’s ex is going to cause over this.
I want to ask my partnerÂ’s ex if I can drop off the invitations so they can get out to step-daughterÂ’s school friends before the school year is over, but I am dreading the response we are going to get.
She likes to be the one in control and I just know us planning a birthday party for their daughter- even though it is during my partner’s time- is going to set her right off. And we might as well just forget about it if she catches wind that it is a joint party with my daughter. “My daughter doesn’t need to share the spotlight with HER daughter” or something along those lines will be the response. Then she will begin to tell their daughter about some other, much better, grand massive thing that she has planned on that exact day and will make her call her dad and tell him that she has changed her mind and won’t be coming.
Ugh. Anyone else have an ex like this to deal with? How do you cope?
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