Hi everyone,
Bit of background:
Married end of August 2010, she moved out March 2011 by her choice. Lived together for 15 months before that. She is pregnant with my child(pretty sure its mine anyway) She had an affair in January which had ended and we were working on our marriage when she got pregnant.
She is now hell bent on making me pay. I had purchased a house 1 month prior to being married, it is in my name only and only my name on the mortgage. She had helped pay for household bills when married. The money for the 20% down payment came from proceeds of my previous house i have had for 8 years, she lived in that house with me for a year before we sold it. She feels that she is entitled to what she calls the "equity" in the house. I have tried to explain to her that that down payment is exempt as per the law and that we are actually upside down in equity because prices have dropped since last summer. Of course she wont listen to a word I have said. Hopefully a lawyer will explain this to her because it is getting really frustrating for me.
She said she is going to make me pay spousal support and feels that she is not responsible for any loss of value on the house. She is going to be moving 500 kms away when she gives birth so i may try to follow her to be close to my child. The kicker is i busted my butt last year working up north and made 163,000. She made 56,000.
I was curious what people thought her chances of getting spousal support would be and for how long?
She has a federal job and is considering taking the 93% top up for the first year but is hoping to never go back to that job if she can retrain during her 5 years off without losing her position, so she will have to pay back that top up eventually.
If i move down south to be near my child my wage will drop to 90,000. Will i have to pay spousal support based on my last year wages?
Is it possible to have child support payments reduced because i would be taking a lower paying job to be near the child and to help raise it or am i going to be forced to pay like i was making an additional 75 grand?
Its been very frustrating trying to figure out why she is so angry at me and why she is trying to take me for all i am worth. I am trying my best to remain civil in all this since there will be a child to help raise but its extremely difficult.
Any thoughts or advice will be great, yes I have already contacted a lawyer and we are in the process of serving her with papers to try and get this marital property divided up.
Thanks
Bit of background:
Married end of August 2010, she moved out March 2011 by her choice. Lived together for 15 months before that. She is pregnant with my child(pretty sure its mine anyway) She had an affair in January which had ended and we were working on our marriage when she got pregnant.
She is now hell bent on making me pay. I had purchased a house 1 month prior to being married, it is in my name only and only my name on the mortgage. She had helped pay for household bills when married. The money for the 20% down payment came from proceeds of my previous house i have had for 8 years, she lived in that house with me for a year before we sold it. She feels that she is entitled to what she calls the "equity" in the house. I have tried to explain to her that that down payment is exempt as per the law and that we are actually upside down in equity because prices have dropped since last summer. Of course she wont listen to a word I have said. Hopefully a lawyer will explain this to her because it is getting really frustrating for me.
She said she is going to make me pay spousal support and feels that she is not responsible for any loss of value on the house. She is going to be moving 500 kms away when she gives birth so i may try to follow her to be close to my child. The kicker is i busted my butt last year working up north and made 163,000. She made 56,000.
I was curious what people thought her chances of getting spousal support would be and for how long?
She has a federal job and is considering taking the 93% top up for the first year but is hoping to never go back to that job if she can retrain during her 5 years off without losing her position, so she will have to pay back that top up eventually.
If i move down south to be near my child my wage will drop to 90,000. Will i have to pay spousal support based on my last year wages?
Is it possible to have child support payments reduced because i would be taking a lower paying job to be near the child and to help raise it or am i going to be forced to pay like i was making an additional 75 grand?
Its been very frustrating trying to figure out why she is so angry at me and why she is trying to take me for all i am worth. I am trying my best to remain civil in all this since there will be a child to help raise but its extremely difficult.
Any thoughts or advice will be great, yes I have already contacted a lawyer and we are in the process of serving her with papers to try and get this marital property divided up.
Thanks
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