I had 1 4 way and I think it was worth it. I would not have done more than 1 4 way though. It was getting a bit ridiculous going back and forth in emails what could be said with a 10 minute conversation, and ex refused to speak with me. The other benefit, which my lawyer told me, is that it lets each lawyer know what the other person is up to and gets truth on the table, because sometimes people do not tell their lawyer the whole story and the lawyer can only advise on what they know, At a 4 way the lawyer might get a better idea of reality and can then advise their client better. I have no doubt that was the situation in my case! It didnt resolve it imediately because my ex's response after the 4 way was to fire his lawyer. But I think it still helped and showed I was pretty firm in my position and within 6 months an agreement was signed.
The irony of it, was in the end the agreement was pretty much exactly what I had suggested when we first separated. Still took 1.5 years, 1 trip to court and about 17000 for my costs alone, plus whatever ex spent. Such a waste. And reading on here I know I should count myself lucky it only took that long.
The irony of it, was in the end the agreement was pretty much exactly what I had suggested when we first separated. Still took 1.5 years, 1 trip to court and about 17000 for my costs alone, plus whatever ex spent. Such a waste. And reading on here I know I should count myself lucky it only took that long.
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