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Old 10-09-2013, 10:49 PM
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Hello everybody. I have some questions again.

You all being so much help. Thank you for that.


1. What would be similar places for pick up/ drop off kids , like supervised access center?

2. What is going on on first case conference? What orders could be asked /granted if any?


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Old 10-09-2013, 11:54 PM
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I've heard the police station suggested many times, I've also heard it can be more stressful on the kids to have the police around so frequently.

A great suggestion was to use the public library for exchanges!
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Or just a subway station at the collector booth.
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Old 10-10-2013, 09:36 AM
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I've heard the police station suggested many times, I've also heard it can be more stressful on the kids to have the police around so frequently.

A great suggestion was to use the public library for exchanges!


Thanks, I will think about that. Police station - I do not like this idea either. Especially , when 2 young kids involved. I like YWCA idea, but they only offer evenings , and I work on evenings.


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Old 10-10-2013, 09:38 AM
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Or just a subway station at the collector booth.

Thanks, small city, we do not have subways.
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Old 10-10-2013, 11:16 AM
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If they are school age, then the exchange is best that Parent A's time ends at the beginnings of school and parent B's time starts at the end of school. This reduces the contact between parents.

Since your kids are not in school, I agree with the library idea. But you can also use a Tim Hortons parking lot or local mall.
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Old 10-10-2013, 12:58 PM
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When we first separated we simply exchanged via daycare. One of us would drop off at the beginning of the day and the other would pick up at the end of the day.

We now do the same with the school.

It simply makes life easier as it is part of our child's daily routine. Our child is free to express joy and happiness at seeing me (or Dad) at pick-up time. Dropping of on exchange day also involves a lot of "I Love You's", "See You on....", and hugs. All without the other parent watching.

I would highly recommend this type of approach to exchanges if you are at all able to do it.

The rare times we have had issues is when we are "both" there. We are divorced for a reason and my ex is extremely high conflict. If your ex is the same (high conflict) and already causes issues at exchanges, it won't get better with time if you are both always there, no matter how generic you make the location.
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Old 10-10-2013, 01:34 PM
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That would simplify issue, but my kids to young for day care. I have newborn.

Thanks. I will probably do library. Its nice quite place. I just thought maybe there some other services, even paid ones, like YWCA, so no face to face contact, as Mother has some mental issues and could accuse me of abuse etc.


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Old 10-10-2013, 01:38 PM
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Oh, that won't save you from accusations. Mine started screaming at the court in front of the courtroom that I assaulted her. The guards came running, but fortunately there was a small guy my ex couldn't see standing right behind me who stopped them.
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If access exchanges cannot occur during children's activities (parent A brings them to school, daycare, hockey, etc and parent B picks them up), and the parties' homes are not an option (parent A stays inside, kids walk to parent B who stays in the car), any neutral location could be used.

Tim Hortons' tend to be populated, which makes them popular.
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