It is so good to find this forum ; and do I need advice; will try to be as brief as possible.
This is the situation: I have an eight year old autistic son, who was always, without exception, extremely close to his father. Our arrangement was such that my ex husband had the primary home , due to the fact that I am fighting still for custody and primary rights and also because I am on the list for housing in our area. My ex has a larger home with a yard that is much more suitable for our boy. I have been taking care of our son an average of three days weekly, and always kept his special routine in check. Here is the problem:
Since approx. late May to mid June this year, my son has been expressing words and actions to me that clearly raise red flags in the concerns of emotional /mental abuse and lack of care. My son is basically shaking, from head to toe, when I prepare his bags to return home from our three days together, crying nonstop, stating from when he arrives in my home for at least two days duratin, "no more dad, stay at moms house, stay in blue house" (the blue house is my building)
He is stating things like "bad boy, no good, behave mister, stop it, stop it" and crying as he does it.
Just recently he has been stating this: "daddy sick, daddy sleeping, get off the floor now!"
MY ex husband, last thursday, ended up in our hospital due to an apparent seizure, and the only way I found this out was because I telephoned that afternoon to see how my son's camp day went. He was in the background crying for me, and I promptly went over to retrieve him. He has been with me since. My ex has requested to the hospital that no info regarding his condition be given to me he went for further tests today and is reassigned to another room. He did not call this evening to update me on his prognosis and treatment assigned. This past w/e I brought my son to the hospital to see him, both days. Both times my son pinned himself literally to me, sitting on me, looking down, stating "no, no" at my encouragement for him to go hug his dad. He is terrified of him but cannot verbally tell me why. This is not the relationship they used to have. I know something happened to my boy while under the man's care but because I am not allowed in his home and my son not being able to communicate I cannot prove anything. I am seeing a lawyer for consult today and am praying for an immediate motion for primary based on his current health. My son is terrified of this man, and I have been approached by people he knows over the weekend and told that he is bringing pot and alcohol into the home and doing this in front of my son. Three of them told me my boy is better off with me but do not want to get involved. It is a very small town and they are afraid of the repercussions involved. Short of seeing this lawyer today I was about to pick up the phone and call CAS, this is how scared I am for my son. I know he is primary right now, but I honestly do not feel I can willingly return my boy to that environment, is is something I feel I cannot do. I am worried for my son's safety , and I do not feel I have a leg to stand on. Any advice would be read and appreciated.
Many thanks.
This is the situation: I have an eight year old autistic son, who was always, without exception, extremely close to his father. Our arrangement was such that my ex husband had the primary home , due to the fact that I am fighting still for custody and primary rights and also because I am on the list for housing in our area. My ex has a larger home with a yard that is much more suitable for our boy. I have been taking care of our son an average of three days weekly, and always kept his special routine in check. Here is the problem:
Since approx. late May to mid June this year, my son has been expressing words and actions to me that clearly raise red flags in the concerns of emotional /mental abuse and lack of care. My son is basically shaking, from head to toe, when I prepare his bags to return home from our three days together, crying nonstop, stating from when he arrives in my home for at least two days duratin, "no more dad, stay at moms house, stay in blue house" (the blue house is my building)
He is stating things like "bad boy, no good, behave mister, stop it, stop it" and crying as he does it.
Just recently he has been stating this: "daddy sick, daddy sleeping, get off the floor now!"
MY ex husband, last thursday, ended up in our hospital due to an apparent seizure, and the only way I found this out was because I telephoned that afternoon to see how my son's camp day went. He was in the background crying for me, and I promptly went over to retrieve him. He has been with me since. My ex has requested to the hospital that no info regarding his condition be given to me he went for further tests today and is reassigned to another room. He did not call this evening to update me on his prognosis and treatment assigned. This past w/e I brought my son to the hospital to see him, both days. Both times my son pinned himself literally to me, sitting on me, looking down, stating "no, no" at my encouragement for him to go hug his dad. He is terrified of him but cannot verbally tell me why. This is not the relationship they used to have. I know something happened to my boy while under the man's care but because I am not allowed in his home and my son not being able to communicate I cannot prove anything. I am seeing a lawyer for consult today and am praying for an immediate motion for primary based on his current health. My son is terrified of this man, and I have been approached by people he knows over the weekend and told that he is bringing pot and alcohol into the home and doing this in front of my son. Three of them told me my boy is better off with me but do not want to get involved. It is a very small town and they are afraid of the repercussions involved. Short of seeing this lawyer today I was about to pick up the phone and call CAS, this is how scared I am for my son. I know he is primary right now, but I honestly do not feel I can willingly return my boy to that environment, is is something I feel I cannot do. I am worried for my son's safety , and I do not feel I have a leg to stand on. Any advice would be read and appreciated.
Many thanks.
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