Just wanted to hear from the parents here how the deal with clothes. rather, the purchase of clothes.
I'm the access parent (every other weekend and one weekday visit every week) who is non-custodial. I pay full table child support.
The custodial parent basically stopped sending any clothing for the child. She used to send a weekend bag with the child for clothes for her stay. We got into an argument about extra access that I was asking for and she decided to stop sending the child with clothes after that.
I shortly after purchased a whole bedroom set with nightstands, dresser, chest, etc and packed them with brand new clothes. Till this day, I continue to buy clothes for child to have while under my care. This includes, jackets, hats, gloves, shoes, underwear, towels, socks and just about everything. I sometimes don't have space to keep them all and send them along with her to moms to enjoy for school.
The child continues to be represented to me in old worn our and torn clothing and I hate to see my child in that. The new clothing generally don't return. So I continue purchasing nice clothes for her to have. The mom will make her wear worn out clothing until they're basically replaced by me. Though I do still send back the old clothes. Here and then she will maybe buy something for the child.
It has gotten to the point where it's as if I'm the custodial parent. I just wanted to know how other parents deal with this?
My initial thought is to continue and save the receipts as I have been doing. The only thing that has been sort of bothering me is that I'm paying child support already. Full table amount. I mean this would make more sense if there was an offset in child support, but with full table child support, doesn't really make sense to me. I think clothing here and there as a gift would make more sense. But it is what it is and I'm just trying to do what best serves my child in the given circumstances.
Any thoughts, comments or questions by both moms and dads would be appreciated. This is of course something I'm not going to raise a stink about in court unless it is relevant to anything .
I'm the access parent (every other weekend and one weekday visit every week) who is non-custodial. I pay full table child support.
The custodial parent basically stopped sending any clothing for the child. She used to send a weekend bag with the child for clothes for her stay. We got into an argument about extra access that I was asking for and she decided to stop sending the child with clothes after that.
I shortly after purchased a whole bedroom set with nightstands, dresser, chest, etc and packed them with brand new clothes. Till this day, I continue to buy clothes for child to have while under my care. This includes, jackets, hats, gloves, shoes, underwear, towels, socks and just about everything. I sometimes don't have space to keep them all and send them along with her to moms to enjoy for school.
The child continues to be represented to me in old worn our and torn clothing and I hate to see my child in that. The new clothing generally don't return. So I continue purchasing nice clothes for her to have. The mom will make her wear worn out clothing until they're basically replaced by me. Though I do still send back the old clothes. Here and then she will maybe buy something for the child.
It has gotten to the point where it's as if I'm the custodial parent. I just wanted to know how other parents deal with this?
My initial thought is to continue and save the receipts as I have been doing. The only thing that has been sort of bothering me is that I'm paying child support already. Full table amount. I mean this would make more sense if there was an offset in child support, but with full table child support, doesn't really make sense to me. I think clothing here and there as a gift would make more sense. But it is what it is and I'm just trying to do what best serves my child in the given circumstances.
Any thoughts, comments or questions by both moms and dads would be appreciated. This is of course something I'm not going to raise a stink about in court unless it is relevant to anything .
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