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Old 05-27-2011, 11:18 PM
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I just want to say to everyone who is going through hell...that i went to trial last month and feel really good about the outcome. I want to say that I totally forgive the Respondent and his wife who criucified me and my child throughout the process and i feel free and alive again. I and my daughter hold no grudges against the lies and pain that they brought against us and are moving on nicely with whatever the judge decides. I will not let this get in the way of our beautiul lifel. My daughter has a wonderful father who is my husband and has been with her since she has been siix years old. We will no longer feel guilt for her praising him as a father and i will live my live as it was before all this mess..in peace and harmony. I wish the same to all you.
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Your husband may be a Dad to her, but he is not now nor will he ever be her Father. You'd be doing your daughter a disservice to suggest otherwise.

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good 4 u mummer.

the ultimate goal is to move on and accept the whole thing as having happened.. BUT IN THE PAST.

If nothing else, forgive yourself the worst that the whole experience brought out n you. If you're anything like me, there was that one moment... and it's over. Phew.
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Old 05-28-2011, 06:02 AM
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Sounds like hollow forgiveness and repressed anger to me.

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...I and my daughter hold no grudges....
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Old 05-28-2011, 02:50 PM
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Semantics,
Yes a father is biology....a dad is the one who cares for you when you are sick, supports you througth anything, kicks you ass when you need it and never ever lets you down...Yes Gary, my husband is her DAD.
And...my forgiveness is not depedent on any interpretations by anyone on here, it is simply meant as my way to let it go and hope that others can do the same....
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One of the things my ex had to realize after we broke up...

Her and my daughter weren't a package deal.

And even if my ex hated me and I didn't have much love for her, I was still there for my kid.
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HammerDad

well said... i think the package deal concept is a huge problem for some people. You divorce your spouse not your kids.
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I will never forgive my ex, nor do I think I should. That said, we get along just fine and I don't carry a grudge. I think forgiveness and the ability to move forward in a positive way are separate concepts. One doesn't require the other.

Civility is mutually beneficial. Forgiveness is earned.
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I will never forgive my ex, nor do I think I should. That said, we get along just fine and I don't carry a grudge. I think forgiveness and the ability to move forward in a positive way are separate concepts. One doesn't require the other.

Civility is mutually beneficial. Forgiveness is earned.
I agree completely. I am doing my best to move on without anger, but I don't think I can ever forgive someone who isn't the least bit remorseful for what they did.
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I agree completely. I am doing my best to move on without anger, but I don't think I can ever forgive someone who isn't the least bit remorseful for what they did.
"Remorseful for what they did"?? btw, it takes 2 to get married, and 2 to breakdown a marriage ...
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