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Old 05-04-2021, 10:34 PM
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I dont understand what they are filing when you have a case conference coming up. Did she file a motion to change a final agreement and the conference in June is due to that? Why on earth would she file a different matter?

If all she has is an er visit and some threats she is going to need much more. Clearly this is all motivated by her desire to move.

Do you have a lawyer?
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Old 05-04-2021, 10:37 PM
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That's followed by a litigation plan, which has some oddities such as requesting financial disclosure of my wife, as well as questioning of her.
Your wife is not a party to the matter and if you arent claiming hardship, her income is irrelevant.

Sounds like a scare tactic to get you to agree.


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Old 05-05-2021, 08:48 AM
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I dont understand what they are filing when you have a case conference coming up. Did she file a motion to change a final agreement and the conference in June is due to that? Why on earth would she file a different matter?

If all she has is an er visit and some threats she is going to need much more. Clearly this is all motivated by her desire to move.

Do you have a lawyer?
Ah right I forgot to clarify that part. Along with the settlement offer, her lawyer was unaware of the conference in June, and has since withdrawn the new application for docket court. I imagine they'll try to dictate the conference into dealing with their increased goals now. Originally was just to deal with parents getting counseling or a parenting coordinator, and if there is time then they would look at child support.

Child support is due to when she left the country for work for 8 months, she refused to pay it. I requested it of her multiple times, but never pursued it in court to keep the peace as well as just not wanting the headaches. Since we are in court anyhow...

I'm speaking to a lawyer next week about a limited scope retainer. Spending years repaying debt from defending against her opportunism is something I'm hoping to avoid.
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Old 05-05-2021, 11:08 AM
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Just remember a limited scope retainer includes increased hourly fees. You may want to ask a couple of lawyers what their fees are for LSR.

Like I previously said, it sounds like her ultimate goal is to move with the kids but has nothing but false allegations and ridiculous requests as her basis for requesting that. I would review cases on mobility as well as psychological concerns. Also prepare yourself to get reports from her trip to the ER and any other shit she claims.

Your ex is an idiot in my view but for some reason idiots get a lot of rope in the court process. Hopefully your conference has a judge who is brutally honest with her. Probably why she has a new lawyer.
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Old 05-14-2021, 05:17 PM
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Here is my view on the assessment:

1) They are a total crap shoot. Her lawyer will try to pick a lawyer that is favorable to your ex's situation and her being a woman. Your lawyer would try to pick someone with a predetermined outcome too.

2) Your ex is manipulative as f**k. She will no doubt lie to the assessor and give them reason to rule for her.....fighting the assessment is expensive and draining and it is easy to get blindsided.

3) Assessors are definitely include some very dishonest and stupid people and do everything they can to cover their butt to keep themselves from being sued.


Parenting co-ordinator:
1) Again, your ex will work to manipulate them and no matter what they say about "I can't be manipulated" that is bull. Many are.
2) Your ex will hike up costs here but from what I know you can't be forced to have a parental co-ordinator.
3) The good thing is that if your ex is provably unreasonable and you have the PC on your side it can help.


From experience a PC with a manipulative and high-conflict ex isn't going to work so well.

Your ex is trying to engage you to find something, anything even if not true against you.

Avoid all phone conversations and limit all emails. Trust me it is cheaper than trying to reason with them.
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Old 05-17-2021, 06:47 PM
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Thanks for the input Clean, I appreciate it.

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Avoid all phone conversations and limit all emails. Trust me it is cheaper than trying to reason with them.
That's the most amusing part of everything to me. The first thing her new lawyer did upon being retained is send me a letter stating that if I attempt to contact my ex in any way, they will use that as evidence for a no contact order.

Help her lawyer rack up billable hours by passing on routine kid messages? Done deal, not a problem for me whatsoever... Kids got a vaccination scheduled, that's an email to her lawyer. Confirmation of where the kids will be while schools done online, that's another email.

Her bills are likely obscene.
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Old 06-28-2021, 11:58 PM
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In the end the EICC resulted in a consent order for the kids to be able to see a psychologist and one parent cannot remove consent now. In addition the practice note 8 parenting assessment will happen, with her paying all costs herself, retainer for that is at least $35,000. I have no idea how she is gonna afford that on top of her lawyers fees.

Didn't have to consent to the PN8, but with how the judge was talking and how the ex seems to be bound and determined to fight a crazy fight, I figured I could at least come across as somewhat reasonable and at the same time make her eat the costs for now. The assessment should be very interesting with all the issues she's had of late in her relationship with the children. I'm going to make a separate topic for some of that though.
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Old 06-29-2021, 12:18 AM
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Wow, that's insane. The retainer for our private assessment, requested by and paid fully by him, was $15K.
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Old 06-29-2021, 11:13 AM
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Wow, that's insane. The retainer for our private assessment, requested by and paid fully by him, was $15K.
Her and her lawyer have been trying to make me give in to their demands by scaring me with how much family law costs. One of those scare tactics was to request that one of the most expensive psychologists in the city do the assessment, and saying I would have to pay half the costs. Backfired in the end it seems.
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Old 06-29-2021, 12:37 PM
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When the judge granted my ex's request, he ordered that he choose three professionals but I got to choose. One could say the 15K was my "fault" lol. The assessment itself backfired on him. He was expecting her to declare our boys be removed from me immediately. She didn't and pretty much recommended everything I had put in my OTS. What a waste.
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