Sadly, this is not my first time at this. My husband I married six years ago. It was a wonderful, loving relationship for the most part. He loved my kids. When we first started dating, he was unemployed, being evicted and his family wouldn't help him (yeah, I'm that stupid). I heard his down and out story and I felt terrible for him. So, idiot that I am, let him move in and he slowly rebuilt a pretty good life for himself.
About four years ago, his mother got cancer. He understandably reacted badly, but it got out of hand. He decided he needed to be the one to care for her, so he unilaterally decided to go on leave from work to care for her. He withdrew from me and my kids, only joining us for dinners. He went on antidepressants but he was still in a dark place. Two years later, she passed away. Something in him was not right. He turned our bedroom into our shrine. Put her duvet on our bed, put an old lamp on my bedside table, hung her old shower curtain in our bathroom. I finally told him that I wasn't comfortable with it all. I suggested support groups. He refused. He got worse and worse and kept telling me I never allowed him to grieve, even though he took four months off work.
The last few months have gotten out of hand. He convinced me to have my mother sign over her house to us and promised things would be better without her in the picture. The week after we signed all the papers, he told me he was leaving. He knows I don't work and have been having trouble finding a job. He started sending me pages of emails and texts, calling me cold and saying how horrible I am and how he feels sorry for my kids. He never wants to talk in person, only writing to me. He is jealous of my kids and and even our dogs, complaining how he is always at the bottom of my list. Last night he went too far. He actually accused me and my 19 year old son of having some romantic relationship. I've had it. I can't live like this. He said he's done and I'm okay with it, emotionally.
Problem is, he knows I can't support myself and my kids. We've been sharing bills, with him paying the mortgage. He also has us on his medical insurance benefits and I have injections that are $1200 a month that I'll lose. He's also currently packing his stuff and putting it in the car. His name is on the mortgage as well, so can he just stiff me? I'm going to lose my house. I'm terrified.
I should also mention he has been addicted to Percocet for years and I'm wondering if that's what's affecting his thought process, but I'm also suspecting Bipolar Disorder. He's just not right.
About four years ago, his mother got cancer. He understandably reacted badly, but it got out of hand. He decided he needed to be the one to care for her, so he unilaterally decided to go on leave from work to care for her. He withdrew from me and my kids, only joining us for dinners. He went on antidepressants but he was still in a dark place. Two years later, she passed away. Something in him was not right. He turned our bedroom into our shrine. Put her duvet on our bed, put an old lamp on my bedside table, hung her old shower curtain in our bathroom. I finally told him that I wasn't comfortable with it all. I suggested support groups. He refused. He got worse and worse and kept telling me I never allowed him to grieve, even though he took four months off work.
The last few months have gotten out of hand. He convinced me to have my mother sign over her house to us and promised things would be better without her in the picture. The week after we signed all the papers, he told me he was leaving. He knows I don't work and have been having trouble finding a job. He started sending me pages of emails and texts, calling me cold and saying how horrible I am and how he feels sorry for my kids. He never wants to talk in person, only writing to me. He is jealous of my kids and and even our dogs, complaining how he is always at the bottom of my list. Last night he went too far. He actually accused me and my 19 year old son of having some romantic relationship. I've had it. I can't live like this. He said he's done and I'm okay with it, emotionally.
Problem is, he knows I can't support myself and my kids. We've been sharing bills, with him paying the mortgage. He also has us on his medical insurance benefits and I have injections that are $1200 a month that I'll lose. He's also currently packing his stuff and putting it in the car. His name is on the mortgage as well, so can he just stiff me? I'm going to lose my house. I'm terrified.
I should also mention he has been addicted to Percocet for years and I'm wondering if that's what's affecting his thought process, but I'm also suspecting Bipolar Disorder. He's just not right.
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