Originally posted by billiechic
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I have to ask this then, if it was the the mother, would your position be any different? What and how much would constitute abuse or abusive? Any amount or any form?
Have you ever yelled at your kids, have you ever grabbed them by the arm, that may have been a little too rough?....and I'm just using "you" in general terms....I don't me you as a person, but hypothetically.
The reason why I asked this because I was in an 'abusive' relationship, where my ex 'abused' the children. For example, once was in a Wal-Mart and mom slapped son across the face. Another time I came home son had mom's hand print across son's face....and one last example, but certainly not least she was bathing our son in the tub, I heard her voice getting louder, I had a broken ankle, I got up stairs to witness her, shaking him by the arm and yelling at him, "sit still, you worthless piece of sh!t".
So, I have to ask, should a mother continue to mother? I did not report this? Should I be a father? At the time my ex was in depression, tried top commit suicide, I found her and called 911. I wanted to help, I didn't think, at the time removing me or the children would help, to finally one day I couldn't take it anymore...too many images in my head. So I told her we were braking up? So, she beat me to the punch line, moved the children out, wouldn't let me see them, and demanded CS.
I could have in hindsight...we all know about hind sight...reported all of this...but didn't as I wanted the children to have a mother.....she even called me on it, blaming me, stating, I should have reported her and why didn't I? That it was all my fault.
I think it's tough question to make moves that would eliminate a parent from our children's lives. And we need to be careful, to what we believe is abusive.
You know that in trial, this postpartum issue for woman, I'm a bastard if I try and bring any issue, including abuse into court that was in any time linked to her 'condition', not only that, I'm chastised for it.
I won
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