I've been seeing a pattern is some posts ...
Where one spouse wants to see the kids and the other prevents them from seeing the kids.
One spouse wants to make the marriage work, the other doesn't.
There seems to be opposing of wants/needs by spouses.
Now I'm wondering, can this be used to a persons advantage in gaining what it it they truly want? IE - You want to see the kids is the true goal. You do things so that the ex perceives you as not wanting to see the kids. The ex in turns does the opposite of your actions and trys to push the kids onto you. Meanwhile, your objective has been fulfilled. As an example.
So how can opposing views be used to your advantage? Can they or can't they?
Hubby
Where one spouse wants to see the kids and the other prevents them from seeing the kids.
One spouse wants to make the marriage work, the other doesn't.
There seems to be opposing of wants/needs by spouses.
Now I'm wondering, can this be used to a persons advantage in gaining what it it they truly want? IE - You want to see the kids is the true goal. You do things so that the ex perceives you as not wanting to see the kids. The ex in turns does the opposite of your actions and trys to push the kids onto you. Meanwhile, your objective has been fulfilled. As an example.
So how can opposing views be used to your advantage? Can they or can't they?
Hubby
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