Hi folks,
I've been dealing with a separation for a little while. I've been diligent in recording events, with specific times and dates etc.
I'd like some folks feedback on how they think this will play out in court and if I have grounds for > 50/50 custody.
Long story short here are the reasons why I want full custody and more than 50/50 custody.
- I have always been the primary caregiver.
- The ex has committed acts of property destruction in front of the children.
- The ex has pushed me in front of the children (but coaxed the children to lie and say that it never happened)
- In that same incident he managed to convince the police that he was the - victim and the victims unit contacted HIM (although I was assaulted and the one who called the police).
- He changed the locks on the matrimonial home.
- He constantly alienates me to the children
- He tells the children I'm dangerous and that he is sweet and caring and would never hurt a fly.
- He showed up at my new home, and attempted to enter the home to take the children
- He involves the children in the fight
- He had a drug pipe (marijunana) in the home with the children (picture to prove it)
Without getting into the details of how he alienates me, and what he's telling the children, it's despicable.
The children are both aged under 7 years of age.
We are high conflict and cannot communicate (and has admitted it), but has stated that we can in his latest court documents, because he must have realized that high conflict usually means no Joint custody.
The case conference is coming up, and I'm trying to understand what to expect.
My goal is to go in and point out the reasons why it's in the best interest of the children to spend more time with me, and less with him. And to offer a few options of settlement/resolution.
Without prejudice, he shows all the signs of a sociopath, and entitlement. Part of my conditions to allow joint custody/more access are for him to seek counselling and show an improvement in his behavior.
I'm looking to just talk through this with some of the great folk on here to help me understand what to expect, and for others who have had similar experiences (or read cases) to share their thoughts with me.
P.S. I just found out that he coaxed my child into telling C.A.S. that my new partner has hurt the child. Things are out of control on his side.
He has a keen ability to manipulate people, and has been able to do so with C.A.S. the authorities, and I fear he may be able to do it with the courts.
I've been dealing with a separation for a little while. I've been diligent in recording events, with specific times and dates etc.
I'd like some folks feedback on how they think this will play out in court and if I have grounds for > 50/50 custody.
Long story short here are the reasons why I want full custody and more than 50/50 custody.
- I have always been the primary caregiver.
- The ex has committed acts of property destruction in front of the children.
- The ex has pushed me in front of the children (but coaxed the children to lie and say that it never happened)
- In that same incident he managed to convince the police that he was the - victim and the victims unit contacted HIM (although I was assaulted and the one who called the police).
- He changed the locks on the matrimonial home.
- He constantly alienates me to the children
- He tells the children I'm dangerous and that he is sweet and caring and would never hurt a fly.
- He showed up at my new home, and attempted to enter the home to take the children
- He involves the children in the fight
- He had a drug pipe (marijunana) in the home with the children (picture to prove it)
Without getting into the details of how he alienates me, and what he's telling the children, it's despicable.
The children are both aged under 7 years of age.
We are high conflict and cannot communicate (and has admitted it), but has stated that we can in his latest court documents, because he must have realized that high conflict usually means no Joint custody.
The case conference is coming up, and I'm trying to understand what to expect.
My goal is to go in and point out the reasons why it's in the best interest of the children to spend more time with me, and less with him. And to offer a few options of settlement/resolution.
Without prejudice, he shows all the signs of a sociopath, and entitlement. Part of my conditions to allow joint custody/more access are for him to seek counselling and show an improvement in his behavior.
I'm looking to just talk through this with some of the great folk on here to help me understand what to expect, and for others who have had similar experiences (or read cases) to share their thoughts with me.
P.S. I just found out that he coaxed my child into telling C.A.S. that my new partner has hurt the child. Things are out of control on his side.
He has a keen ability to manipulate people, and has been able to do so with C.A.S. the authorities, and I fear he may be able to do it with the courts.
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