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Hi all! I should've introduced myself before now, but here's my intro.
I'm a single Mom to twin boys who just turned two; don't have to say, it's a BUSY life! My ex and I originally separated over a year ago, had a short 'reconciliation' period, but ended it for good about 8 monthes ago. Like most everyone else here, it's been a nightmare. He's an alcoholic who's out of control and screwing up more and more all the time. When we met, it was a case of everyone saying that love had changed him, and now he was settling down to a responsible adult, etc. Gradually, he moved back to his old ways of drinking and being less and less responsible, and I became more and more of a "police woman", trying to keep him on the straight and narrow, and once the kids came, and I needed him to take some responsibility for himself, he just didn't. In the end, it was all I could do to keep him from financially ruining our lives, and he was drinking all the time; I couldn't take it and asked him to leave.
Now we're fighting over custody and access, support, and the house. I'm not working, and he's trying to control me by keeping me broke and afraid for our future. He won't see the kids unless he can 'take' them, and I don't trust him to do so. He was recently charged with DUI (his fourth), and will likely be going to jail soon.
Not a pretty picture, but I've already recieved some wonderful advice and support here, and hopefully my situation will prove to be helpful to others.
I'm a single Mom to twin boys who just turned two; don't have to say, it's a BUSY life! My ex and I originally separated over a year ago, had a short 'reconciliation' period, but ended it for good about 8 monthes ago. Like most everyone else here, it's been a nightmare. He's an alcoholic who's out of control and screwing up more and more all the time. When we met, it was a case of everyone saying that love had changed him, and now he was settling down to a responsible adult, etc. Gradually, he moved back to his old ways of drinking and being less and less responsible, and I became more and more of a "police woman", trying to keep him on the straight and narrow, and once the kids came, and I needed him to take some responsibility for himself, he just didn't. In the end, it was all I could do to keep him from financially ruining our lives, and he was drinking all the time; I couldn't take it and asked him to leave.
Now we're fighting over custody and access, support, and the house. I'm not working, and he's trying to control me by keeping me broke and afraid for our future. He won't see the kids unless he can 'take' them, and I don't trust him to do so. He was recently charged with DUI (his fourth), and will likely be going to jail soon.
Not a pretty picture, but I've already recieved some wonderful advice and support here, and hopefully my situation will prove to be helpful to others.
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