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Old 06-22-2010, 09:35 AM
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I have been seperated but still living in the same house as my STBX, for financial reasons and so that I dont lose the kids.

If my girlfriend comes and sleeps over, I would schedule this when the STBX will be away on vacation with the kids, am I putting myself in any legal trouble for doing this? I would notify my STBX of this, but just want to know if this would trouble my cause in any way.

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Old 06-22-2010, 02:26 PM
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Would it cause trouble? Depends on whether the STBX that you are sharing the house with thinks that it's OK for you to have a slumber party while she is away.

If she does not like it, then - yes - you could be in a heap of trouble and she can make a case to have you removed from the house. As I understand it, there are two ways to have an uncooperative spouse removed from the marital home - one is abuse and the other is the introduction of an adulterouse relationship into the marital home. They still call it the marital home, and that is how it is seen.
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Old 06-22-2010, 02:32 PM
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Thanks KeepSmiling!

This is exactly what I wanted to know! Ill have the girlfriend over

Just kidding.
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Old 06-22-2010, 02:49 PM
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Better yet .... throw a party and have everyone stay over .... then you're just being a responsible "host"
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Old 07-08-2010, 11:10 AM
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Well funny how things work out!!!

I found out that SHE (the STBX) has had her BF over, and most likely having sex too!!!

Kind of excited about this new development.

What is the process to get her thrown out? Do I get custody of the kids with this process?
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Old 07-08-2010, 11:28 AM
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Well funny how things work out!!!

I found out that SHE (the STBX) has had her BF over, and most likely having sex too!!!

Kind of excited about this new development.

What is the process to get her thrown out? Do I get custody of the kids with this process?
As if.... who you are having sex with has nothing to do with custody...
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Old 07-08-2010, 11:42 AM
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Would it cause trouble? Depends on whether the STBX that you are sharing the house with thinks that it's OK for you to have a slumber party while she is away.

If she does not like it, then - yes - you could be in a heap of trouble and she can make a case to have you removed from the house. As I understand it, there are two ways to have an uncooperative spouse removed from the marital home - one is abuse and the other is the introduction of an adulterouse relationship into the marital home. They still call it the marital home, and that is how it is seen.
An adulterous relationship hardly defines an uncooperative spouse. Though it may be the reason for a marital breakdown, I don't believe you will have much luck finding a law that will allow you to throw him/her into the street because of it. I would research this instead of following the "I heard" rule.

If both parties agree to permit each other's bf/gf at the house when the other and the kids are not present, then fair is fair. However, I can see this arrangement falling apart very quickly.
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Old 07-08-2010, 11:43 AM
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I recently came home to find my stbx's girlfriend's car in the driveway and bag in the front entrance after the kids and I had gone to Montreal overnight with other friends to visit the Biodome etc. I can honestly say that I was furious and found it very disrespectful since the house is still owned by both of us and the girlfriend has her own residence. Why do you need to bring her to the place that you still share with your ex and where your kids still reside?
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Old 07-08-2010, 11:48 AM
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CMG, yes I agree. I am very much in the same situation as you are.

I was just inquiring, for the comment from KeepSmiling that said I could get thrown out of the house...Now, that I find the SBTX did it...I wanted to know if this was true...Is it? Or was the advice by KeepSmiling wrong.
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Old 07-08-2010, 11:52 AM
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Well funny how things work out!!!

I found out that SHE (the STBX) has had her BF over, and most likely having sex too!!!

Kind of excited about this new development.

What is the process to get her thrown out? Do I get custody of the kids with this process?
Why does this make you happy? You were planning to do the same thing. Do you want her to be happy about evicting you from the house?

If you both agreed to share the house for financial reasons, set up some groundrules that you can both live with, and stick to them. Be respectful of the other person. Don't forget, your kids are watching your every move. Show them how a responsible adult behaves.
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