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    Hi,

    I was hoping someone can offer some advice. Some days when I get to work, I have a really hard time focusing on doing my work and staying focused on work and not everything else.
    What can I do for myself to try to concentrate more on work?
    I find that I am really easily distracted......

  • #2
    no advice here..same prob.

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    • #3
      No advice either

      I'm sure there were days I surfed Canlii all day long.

      mominont

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      • #4
        My doctor sent me to this meditation group. It worked really well for me, and if I start getting distracted or feeling anxiety I just take a few deep breaths and it goes away.

        But for me, I did yoga and martial arts for years and had practiced meditation before, so I picked it up pretty quickly. I don't know if it would be that easy for everyone.

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        • #5
          Once you have closure on the issues, it will get better.

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          • #6
            I treat work as a hobby - somewhere to go to take my mind of my life. When I'm inside the walls of my office, nothing else exists - unless one of my children is on the phone. Vice versa when I'm at home.

            I also keep my day fairly well structured so that I committed to doing a specific task between specific hours which I find helps keep me focussed. I have my days for sure, but so far my head hasn't exploded.

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            • #7
              I remember the time!! And to give you some reassurance...time does heal and the crazy racing mind will go away...as you feel more secure in your decisions and start to feel like you are going in the direction that you want, you will slowly start to notice that you are not thinking the same way that you used to...
              I tried my best to focus on my job and I used to remind myself that this was the only time during the day that I did not have to think about the ex, the separation, lawyers, plans, who said what, how am I going to respond to that...BUT...to get to that point, I would spend my evenings...after I put the kids to bed with a pen and journal and I would write, write and write...everything and anything that I wanted.
              I would write letters to myself, to him, to my kids...I would be sad some days and then mad on other days...I had my pity parties with those sheets of paper and I also had my triumphs with pen to paper!!
              by the time I was read for bed, my head was a little clearer and the next morning it was out of my system...
              I still have those journals...and one day ...after I am gone, my kids will likely read them and understand as adults what it was like for me to go through what there father put me through...they don't need to know that now as they are just children...but later in life, it may help them get through a rough time knowing how strong and independent I was!!??
              Hope you find peace to your days and nights and remember...you can't change what happened in your past, but you can use the information to guide you through your future.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by MaggieT View Post
                II still have those journals...and one day ...after I am gone, my kids will likely read them and understand as adults what it was like for me to go through what there father put me through
                Only if you let them read them. Don't know why you would though.

                Originally posted by MaggieT View Post
                ...they don't need to know that now as they are just children...but later in life, it may help them get through a rough time knowing how strong and independent I was!!??
                Or not.

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                • #9
                  I would never let my child know the crap that I went through. Unless it would help her get through something similar. Having to tell her (in order to help her) is my worst nightmare.

                  Maggie..your kids should be able to see how strong you have become. Telling them is not going to help that, and it is likely to hurt them. Take the high road.

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                  • #10
                    On the 5th day of my ex wife announcing her intentions, my boss told me to bring my gym gear to work. The next day he took me to the gym and i've never looked back. 14 months later I'm in incredible, no amazing shape. So my recommendation is to work out, get active, the result of physical extertion will put you in a better frame of mind. there are some days when I'm not as productive as i'd like but when i've been to the gym and have to deal with my ex I'm a lot less resentful and civil despite feeling so wronged by what has happened to me.
                    so join a gym, exhaust yourself at least 3 times a week, you'll feel better and your health (mental and physical) will improve.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by noblefather View Post
                      I'm in incredible, no amazing shape.
                      Oh la la! Maybe having a picture of a nice muscular guy hanging in my cubical will make me more productive.... la la or not lol

                      At least would cause a nice distraction that's worth my attention...

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by tugofwar View Post
                        Oh la la! Maybe having a picture of a nice muscular guy hanging in my cubical will make me more productive.... la la or not lol

                        At least would cause a nice distraction that's worth my attention...
                        I tried that and it didn't do anything for me

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                        • #13
                          I should have mentioned that my bank account appearance does not look remotely like me which impacts my concentration - so I go to the gym.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by ONdad View Post
                            I tried that and it didn't do anything for me

                            What, having a picture of a muscular guy hanging in your office lol....

                            Or was it a mirror you were referring too?

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