Background:
Until son was 2 there were no overnights and now son 2 has spent 3 consecutive nights over Christmas with Dad and his new family. It appears to have gone well for child, although that is only our guess as we were told nothing of how things went. But child seemed happy and not over clinging to Mom, so we are assuming he was well adjusted.
Now Dad has chosen not to come visit child since Dec 26 ( he has reduced CS to cover travel costs) and he has said he cannot afford it. Now he went to Las Vegas and apparently has bought a new home with his GirlFriend ( he tells all this through his son, knowing Mom is close by when has has his weekly Skype visit with son.
Now he has told son he is coming up to get him soon and he will love his new home and his new brothers and the big back yard. No mention of anything to Mom.
Question: should we do anything, or wait until he emails and tells her of his plans. During mediation, before the agreement was signed he talked about son spending a month with him 3 times a year and that was how he would exercise his parental excess. This was pushed aside by the mediator as not relevant at this time. He made mention, in November of last year, that he intends to take child for a month and bring back when he feels ready to. And at that time Mom had said that will not be fair for Child and not in the agreement.
The Agreement states the child resides with Mother and Father has reasonable access. No set times. They live 1000km apart.
So what would be reasonable for a 2 year old, in this case?
Until son was 2 there were no overnights and now son 2 has spent 3 consecutive nights over Christmas with Dad and his new family. It appears to have gone well for child, although that is only our guess as we were told nothing of how things went. But child seemed happy and not over clinging to Mom, so we are assuming he was well adjusted.
Now Dad has chosen not to come visit child since Dec 26 ( he has reduced CS to cover travel costs) and he has said he cannot afford it. Now he went to Las Vegas and apparently has bought a new home with his GirlFriend ( he tells all this through his son, knowing Mom is close by when has has his weekly Skype visit with son.
Now he has told son he is coming up to get him soon and he will love his new home and his new brothers and the big back yard. No mention of anything to Mom.
Question: should we do anything, or wait until he emails and tells her of his plans. During mediation, before the agreement was signed he talked about son spending a month with him 3 times a year and that was how he would exercise his parental excess. This was pushed aside by the mediator as not relevant at this time. He made mention, in November of last year, that he intends to take child for a month and bring back when he feels ready to. And at that time Mom had said that will not be fair for Child and not in the agreement.
The Agreement states the child resides with Mother and Father has reasonable access. No set times. They live 1000km apart.
So what would be reasonable for a 2 year old, in this case?
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