Hi there, and here goes my questions as I am in a bind. I entered a common law relationship as a single father, and my daughter was 3 and we have been together for 13 years. The relationship has come to an end, and my partner has a god and stable job, and I got ill the last year and a half, unemployed as I was in the middle of changing careers, and working on small translation contracts basis.
My partner has been very aggressive, emotionally and psychologically abusing me as she has deprived from my cell-phone, credit card and curtailing the use of our car. We have not signed nor finalized the separation agreement, and she has sent me an e-mail stating that she has retained a lawyer, wants to start the negotiations for spousal support, and that car and house solely hers, furthermore she wants my daughter (who is her daughter as she is considered a step-mother) and I out of the house by the end of December, and of course it is not going to happen as we are still have not finalized the separation agreement dealing with all issues.
I saw 4 lawyers, and all of them have stated that I have a strong case for child, spousal support, and half of the equity and assets even if they are in he name, as I have contributed the best I could with everything I had in this relationship, and my case is basically will be under the unjust enrichment and express trust. My questions are:
How do I prove this? and make her understand that these are rights as she has been very manipulative and since she is working, has good saving and I have nothing for the time being, so I feel completely vulnerable, isolated, and emotionally abused.
She has not helped in the last 3 months in anything, and I know that she was supposed to support or at least help me as I am ill, a single father, and unemployed, actively looking for work. She has created a very severe anxiety and panic attacks, and chest pain which I have documented with the my doctor, and yesterday at ER. I also will start talking to all my friends about the abuse that I am experiencing, and even her friends to unveil what kind of person she is.
She started a bathroom renovation yesterday, and gave us a short notice with no alternative arrangements to shower. My daughter lives with us almost half of the time, and now I have to tell her with her biological mother for at least a week as that when the renovations will be over. My daughter looks forward to seeing and spending time with me/us. My partner has created this hostile environment in our house that I do not feel safe or secure anymore, and I am not functioning, as soon as I see her my heart starts racing, as she is always up to something.
She is also making two cats (female) we own suffer, as she started closing our bedroom, and I left the bedroom and currently sleeping in the couch. I feel mistreated, and if it was not for my daughter I would have gone to a shelter, but counselors I have met who know about my situation have all told me that she is using this strategy for me to snap or do something crazy, but I am a very peaceful man who has agreed to the separation, but I have my rights and she is trying to make feel bad and not ask for anything else other spousal support.
She asked last Tuesday what I wanted, s she said she just wanted me out her life as quick as possible, and I feel the same, but we have not sat down and dealt anything yet. Anyway, I told her that I will give her an answer this week. But, I am not ready as I know what rights are, and have been working on one proposal or two, and need to be able to figure out all the ins and outs of whatever she might be doing in case she does not go for any of my proposals.
Any advice of how I should deal with my partner?
Thank you.
My partner has been very aggressive, emotionally and psychologically abusing me as she has deprived from my cell-phone, credit card and curtailing the use of our car. We have not signed nor finalized the separation agreement, and she has sent me an e-mail stating that she has retained a lawyer, wants to start the negotiations for spousal support, and that car and house solely hers, furthermore she wants my daughter (who is her daughter as she is considered a step-mother) and I out of the house by the end of December, and of course it is not going to happen as we are still have not finalized the separation agreement dealing with all issues.
I saw 4 lawyers, and all of them have stated that I have a strong case for child, spousal support, and half of the equity and assets even if they are in he name, as I have contributed the best I could with everything I had in this relationship, and my case is basically will be under the unjust enrichment and express trust. My questions are:
How do I prove this? and make her understand that these are rights as she has been very manipulative and since she is working, has good saving and I have nothing for the time being, so I feel completely vulnerable, isolated, and emotionally abused.
She has not helped in the last 3 months in anything, and I know that she was supposed to support or at least help me as I am ill, a single father, and unemployed, actively looking for work. She has created a very severe anxiety and panic attacks, and chest pain which I have documented with the my doctor, and yesterday at ER. I also will start talking to all my friends about the abuse that I am experiencing, and even her friends to unveil what kind of person she is.
She started a bathroom renovation yesterday, and gave us a short notice with no alternative arrangements to shower. My daughter lives with us almost half of the time, and now I have to tell her with her biological mother for at least a week as that when the renovations will be over. My daughter looks forward to seeing and spending time with me/us. My partner has created this hostile environment in our house that I do not feel safe or secure anymore, and I am not functioning, as soon as I see her my heart starts racing, as she is always up to something.
She is also making two cats (female) we own suffer, as she started closing our bedroom, and I left the bedroom and currently sleeping in the couch. I feel mistreated, and if it was not for my daughter I would have gone to a shelter, but counselors I have met who know about my situation have all told me that she is using this strategy for me to snap or do something crazy, but I am a very peaceful man who has agreed to the separation, but I have my rights and she is trying to make feel bad and not ask for anything else other spousal support.
She asked last Tuesday what I wanted, s she said she just wanted me out her life as quick as possible, and I feel the same, but we have not sat down and dealt anything yet. Anyway, I told her that I will give her an answer this week. But, I am not ready as I know what rights are, and have been working on one proposal or two, and need to be able to figure out all the ins and outs of whatever she might be doing in case she does not go for any of my proposals.
Any advice of how I should deal with my partner?
Thank you.
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