I know many of you have a rule about responding to your ex. I want to hear how this fits in your rule. Ill share the situation and then the "background noise".
Ex only emails when she wants money. Normally these emails follow a list of three:
1. They have little to no details. Kid needs x, total estimated cost is y. I cant afford it with out your contribution.
2. Includes some sort of shift of blame on why its coming up now. I cant remember what our decision was.
3. Ends with a "guilt" comment about costs she has had to bear which are basically because she refuses to communicate.
She emailed last night about a s7 cost they had discussed three years ago and she never dealt with it. It could be argued its not really a s7 cost but it would mean the safety of their kids. No details on where when how what etc. She was supposed to investigate it three years ago and her life was more important. I have a feeling the cost isn't going to happen but because time is running out for his portion to be paid (cs ends in three month) she wants to make sure she gets the money.
Now the background noise: both kids aren't speaking to him now. Kid 1 is pissed he didn't hand over ten grand for her schooling each year (his portion is $2000). Kid 2 has had $300-400 of gifts sent over the past year and never responds (why should I say thank you, I didn't ask for them). Ex still hasn't cashed a cheque sent in the summer, has yet to send medical expenses she asked him to pay in Sept, and still hasn't updated FRO on cs.
Im thinking ignore. Responding and pointing out the obvious gets nothing. If he does respond, I err on saying "Im not agreeing to anything until you share full details on this expense, resolve the medical expenses and advise why you haven't cashed the cheque."
Ex only emails when she wants money. Normally these emails follow a list of three:
1. They have little to no details. Kid needs x, total estimated cost is y. I cant afford it with out your contribution.
2. Includes some sort of shift of blame on why its coming up now. I cant remember what our decision was.
3. Ends with a "guilt" comment about costs she has had to bear which are basically because she refuses to communicate.
She emailed last night about a s7 cost they had discussed three years ago and she never dealt with it. It could be argued its not really a s7 cost but it would mean the safety of their kids. No details on where when how what etc. She was supposed to investigate it three years ago and her life was more important. I have a feeling the cost isn't going to happen but because time is running out for his portion to be paid (cs ends in three month) she wants to make sure she gets the money.
Now the background noise: both kids aren't speaking to him now. Kid 1 is pissed he didn't hand over ten grand for her schooling each year (his portion is $2000). Kid 2 has had $300-400 of gifts sent over the past year and never responds (why should I say thank you, I didn't ask for them). Ex still hasn't cashed a cheque sent in the summer, has yet to send medical expenses she asked him to pay in Sept, and still hasn't updated FRO on cs.
Im thinking ignore. Responding and pointing out the obvious gets nothing. If he does respond, I err on saying "Im not agreeing to anything until you share full details on this expense, resolve the medical expenses and advise why you haven't cashed the cheque."
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