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Old 05-23-2019, 11:47 AM
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Most parents in high conflict situations arrange parenting time exchanges so they don't have to see each other. Get a third person to do the pick ups and drop offs (or arrange that you drop her off at daycare/he picks her up from daycare etc) and you - and your daughter - will be much happier. If you have no contact, there will be no reason for conflict.

It will look good to a judge that you have set up the exchanges so your daughter is not witnessing her parents' conflict because of his on-going boundary pushing and if HE violates it, that is held against him. It will also lower your stress level, I don't imagine you enjoy seeing him since he is clearly in bitch eating crackers territory.
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Old 05-23-2019, 11:48 AM
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Again, he’s doing it to piss you off. Ignore. This is a guy who refuses boundaries so why keep fighting? Im sure it will stop once he realizes he gets no rise out of you.

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Old 05-23-2019, 11:51 AM
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We don't engage in conflict in front of her.

Practically speaking- he can't pick her up at school because the order we have now doesn't allow it...and her preschool wants to follow court orders and nothing but. That's fine. Hopefully, if we can reach a consent- this won't be an issue.

I want to ask his sister- the supervisor- to bring her down on her own...but again- I'm worried asking that- suggesting it- is going to look like I'm trying to pick a fight.
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Old 05-23-2019, 12:03 PM
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You are minimizing that your daughter is definitely noticing you being stressed about seeing him and watching him act up. Little kids are SPONGES for that stuff.

You cannot control his sister, if she ignores your request there is nothing you can do. you can control yourself. So don't go, send a friend or a family member or a paid social worker to drop her off. Be too busy having an awesome jerk-free life to have time to waste on seeing him - and use that time to do some self-care. It is better for your own mental health to not have to even see him or exchange in the unhealthy dynamic.
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