We're finishing up mediation. I've been a stay-at-home mom for the past 4 1/2 years. Our kids are very young (3 and 4 1/2). At first, my ex wanted 50/50. The mediator and I explained that they were just too young for this. So he's agreed to 60/40. Now, the problem is that he now wants me to agree to 50/50 as of next summer. I'm not willing to make any promises because I really feel strongly about seeing how the kids react to 60/40 first. I want to bring in a child psychologist or mediator for a non-biased opinion on their adjustment before we even look at 50/50. My ex doesn't want this. He feels threatened. Eventually, I want it to be 50/50 but I think they are too young right now. The problem is that, my ex is bullying me by saying that he's willing to pay me full child support for 6 months beyond our switch to 50/50. For me, the money is irrelevant.... I just want what's best for the kids.
Also, I'm curious about other's parenting schedules. I want a predictable schedule that's the same from week to week but with longer stays (4-5 days). He wants something that's all over the place but shorter stays (2-3 days). We're having trouble agreeing on what's best for our young kids. I want stability for them and he wants to see them often without much stability.
Also, I'm curious about other's parenting schedules. I want a predictable schedule that's the same from week to week but with longer stays (4-5 days). He wants something that's all over the place but shorter stays (2-3 days). We're having trouble agreeing on what's best for our young kids. I want stability for them and he wants to see them often without much stability.
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