I am currently preparing for Trial Management Conference in December. It's been over two years and we are still dealing with all aspects of separation and divorce. One thing I would like to be able to do is include my maiden name (which I have reverted back to) on my son (who's 6) birth certificate.
Here's the background. I have a daughter from a previous relationship (her name was hyphanted with my last name and her fathers....when I was about to marry I expressed that I either wanted to keep my last name. My soon to be spouse did not agree with that idea. I suggested hyphenating my maiden and married name and he still disagreed as his thoughts were that I would be made fun of. I really didn't care about that. I wanted my family namesake to still be recongized and maintain the outward social connection with my daughter and still have the sense of 'belonging' as a family in carrying the same last name.
At the time my soon to be spouse disagreed at both suggestions I advised that I would change the last name of my daughter. I would replace my maiden name with my married name and he was fine with that and signed the appropriate paperwork to do so.
Since we have separated and I have gone back to my maiden name, my daughter changed her name back and I would lilke to include my last name with my son. My ex refuses.
The first time I was in court the judge advised that many parents do this and that my request would most likely be granted. The past court date we had the same judge advised I would have to show how changing my child's name would be in his best interest.
So that confused me, however.
1) My ex had no problem in supporting it for my daughter when it suited him...doesn't that stand for something.
2) my son from time to time has indicated his last name to be the same as mine and his sisters, and he is a very sensitive child who always looks for approval, a sense of belonging and fitting in.
Has anyone gone through this issue in court, and succeeded and have any suggestions as to how I can prepare a rationale to the court in changing my son's name for his best interest?
Thank you, and sorry this is so long.
Here's the background. I have a daughter from a previous relationship (her name was hyphanted with my last name and her fathers....when I was about to marry I expressed that I either wanted to keep my last name. My soon to be spouse did not agree with that idea. I suggested hyphenating my maiden and married name and he still disagreed as his thoughts were that I would be made fun of. I really didn't care about that. I wanted my family namesake to still be recongized and maintain the outward social connection with my daughter and still have the sense of 'belonging' as a family in carrying the same last name.
At the time my soon to be spouse disagreed at both suggestions I advised that I would change the last name of my daughter. I would replace my maiden name with my married name and he was fine with that and signed the appropriate paperwork to do so.
Since we have separated and I have gone back to my maiden name, my daughter changed her name back and I would lilke to include my last name with my son. My ex refuses.
The first time I was in court the judge advised that many parents do this and that my request would most likely be granted. The past court date we had the same judge advised I would have to show how changing my child's name would be in his best interest.
So that confused me, however.
1) My ex had no problem in supporting it for my daughter when it suited him...doesn't that stand for something.
2) my son from time to time has indicated his last name to be the same as mine and his sisters, and he is a very sensitive child who always looks for approval, a sense of belonging and fitting in.
Has anyone gone through this issue in court, and succeeded and have any suggestions as to how I can prepare a rationale to the court in changing my son's name for his best interest?
Thank you, and sorry this is so long.
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