This is a really difficult situation for you and I am going through something similar. I felt she was being passive aggressive, unilaterally changing agreements, denying reasonable requests for things like father's day, etc. In fact, last father's day she texted me in all caps "HAPPY SPERM DONORS DAY!!!" I kid you not.
So for the past several months I had been preparing my motion to vary the consent order. Mainly because it never specified stat holidays and I was unfairly having difficulties being able to see my two girls together on holidays.
Months of preparation and a lot of case law, spent thousands on a lawyer until I couldn't afford it anymore and took over the case myself with a legal secretary's help.
Motion Dismissed.
Yesterday I followed the advice further up in this thread and sent a very polite but clear email, stating that I would be coming next Wednesday and Thursday, can we have 7 hour daily access instead of the 4 that's in the order. I said if she granted the request I would be seeking the consent of my 7 year old's mother and her school teachers to take her out of school. All this cc to her lawyer.
All our emails came out in court. I figured if she flat out denies my request she looks like an asshole, I can still enjoy the 4 hours, be grateful for what I have, and forget about her crazy ass until next Wednesday. She came back and proposed 6 hours and asked that we don't drive more than 50 Km outside of her home. I replied thank you for your generous offer and I agree we won't be driving more than that because it's not practical on a six hour visit. This may change in summer months when there are more viable road trips to choose from, but I will keep her informed.
All I legally have right now is 8 hours access a week. It's not much when I consider myself just as important and devoted of a parent as the mother is. But 8 hours is better than zero and I am very excited about the trip next Wednesday.
So for the past several months I had been preparing my motion to vary the consent order. Mainly because it never specified stat holidays and I was unfairly having difficulties being able to see my two girls together on holidays.
Months of preparation and a lot of case law, spent thousands on a lawyer until I couldn't afford it anymore and took over the case myself with a legal secretary's help.
Motion Dismissed.
Yesterday I followed the advice further up in this thread and sent a very polite but clear email, stating that I would be coming next Wednesday and Thursday, can we have 7 hour daily access instead of the 4 that's in the order. I said if she granted the request I would be seeking the consent of my 7 year old's mother and her school teachers to take her out of school. All this cc to her lawyer.
All our emails came out in court. I figured if she flat out denies my request she looks like an asshole, I can still enjoy the 4 hours, be grateful for what I have, and forget about her crazy ass until next Wednesday. She came back and proposed 6 hours and asked that we don't drive more than 50 Km outside of her home. I replied thank you for your generous offer and I agree we won't be driving more than that because it's not practical on a six hour visit. This may change in summer months when there are more viable road trips to choose from, but I will keep her informed.
All I legally have right now is 8 hours access a week. It's not much when I consider myself just as important and devoted of a parent as the mother is. But 8 hours is better than zero and I am very excited about the trip next Wednesday.
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