We received a letter from my stepson's mom's lawyer, asking for a response to the issues he listed, indicating what his client demands. (More money, as usual... She's the bright one that is willing to pay thousands for a lawyer to fight for a couple hundred.)
Specifically, the lawyer brought up issues that were address and resolved the last time we went to court. At the end of the correspondence, he wrote that if we do not respond, he will be forced to bring these issues up at our future court date (by filing their own motion for changes) so that they may be adjudicated on. Please note, that these were issues already adjudicated on and ordered by the judge at our last court date a year ago!
We feel that the lawyer is using intimidation tactics and threats against us knowing full well what he can get away with since we do not have a lawyer. They probably think that now that we are self-representing, they will be able to change the current order to how they would like it, not what was ordered as fair by the judge. (For more info, see thread titled "How Do You Split Child Care Costs?")
My question is this...
Do we have to correspond with the lawyer? We fear that if we do, he will continue to reply with more demands and threats. We fear that if we respond, we will clue him in to how we are going to proceed at the court date, putting us at a complete disadvantage. We fear that if we respond, anything we may unknowingly agree to may be used against us. However, we also fear the consequences if we don't respond.
We are at a total disadvantage here, and it seems her lawyer is trying to use that to his advantage.
Any thoughts? Advice?
Specifically, the lawyer brought up issues that were address and resolved the last time we went to court. At the end of the correspondence, he wrote that if we do not respond, he will be forced to bring these issues up at our future court date (by filing their own motion for changes) so that they may be adjudicated on. Please note, that these were issues already adjudicated on and ordered by the judge at our last court date a year ago!
We feel that the lawyer is using intimidation tactics and threats against us knowing full well what he can get away with since we do not have a lawyer. They probably think that now that we are self-representing, they will be able to change the current order to how they would like it, not what was ordered as fair by the judge. (For more info, see thread titled "How Do You Split Child Care Costs?")
My question is this...
Do we have to correspond with the lawyer? We fear that if we do, he will continue to reply with more demands and threats. We fear that if we respond, we will clue him in to how we are going to proceed at the court date, putting us at a complete disadvantage. We fear that if we respond, anything we may unknowingly agree to may be used against us. However, we also fear the consequences if we don't respond.
We are at a total disadvantage here, and it seems her lawyer is trying to use that to his advantage.
Any thoughts? Advice?
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