In the case conference the lawyers discussed my giving up the right to spousal property etc along with relocation.
I don't care about "our" shit and we were common law so don't even want to go down that road about who paid what. I gave that up.
BUT relocation?
It's been seven yrs w an interm order that hasn't been valid.
My ex moved out of province then a few yrs later to an even further province. His visitation we agreed to verbally w lawyers was biweekly then when he moved even further HE decided monthly with no discussion or input. Although will do biweekly if its convenient.
Keeping this simple here:
Ex has family in province I am in, And in his visits takes my son for the weekend over night with his parents (sons grandparents).
I have a career and over the seven years struggle in hoping to get N agreement in place as there isn't one, I have continued to go to school and work on my qualifications for a better job eventually elsewhere on e an agreement is in place.
So yes at some point once I get something (trial set for April)
I plan on working on my supports, financials and hope to hook a sweet job in a better warmer province. This is my home province but had moved away for 6 yrs before a visit home and met my ex and stayed.
Either way, what does this all mean?
If I give up my right to relocate what's the chance of me moving?can I apply to court when I'm ready and get the wheels Turning?
My lawyer should have discussed this and was aware that I had intentions of moving and so does my ex over the past few years.
And sure my sons father family is here but they refuse to bother outside of their sons visits. They have very very rarely asked for time and have blamed me for not allowing them access. I have sent numerous emails me posted on family website my openness in trying to accommodate them. I require honest information and disclosure and it in writing.
What another thing my ex is trying to do is introduce his family as back ups.
Back ups for picking up my son from school/dropping off, if he is unable. So this gives him an opening to not bother showing up and his family still having a visit.
Pls if ex was not there for for entire weekend his parents who would be in charge of my son would not rt my son home the first evening or inform me of any issue. They wouldn't even bring my son home Nd I would be clueless.
For one day .... But for 4-5 days? Not a chance I would ever agree.
Plus I have issues with my ex's parents such as the father is distant and authoritarian forced into early retirement for abusive talk to his students (he was a teacher).
My ex's mom was suicidal and had gambling issues, depression etc. stole huge aMounts of money from their retirement.
My ex told me various neglects he suffered in his home like drinking antifreeze r being locked in closet. Ex's mom even went on stress leave from her job and took off out of the country for her months long annual trip not once but at least 2 times. Possible 3!
Exchange student living with family babysitter had sex with ex as 12yr old. Who went on to start experimenting with his first cousin afterwards.
And as an adult this sexual relationship was again picked up (thus part of my ending this relationship)
I just really monitor my son and his happiness and make sure no issues concern me.
They including my ex refuse to provide me parenting information nor consider addressing any parenting concerns.
They have threatened to not return my son and the police have numerous calls but I look like the idiot.
Also my ex and his lawyer are stating the suicidal depression never happened and I am just being an ass. I got various family members this info was disclosed to by ex and his family. My ex is trying to have these details in the parenting agreement/court order.
What's the breakdown on this and what can I do to support myself in this?
Any feedback is appreciative on this.
I need some help since my ex is asking in the court documents to have his family just call and tell me they are taking my son and to have their visits on their own included.
Am I in trouble here? What do I need To do to prove myself?
I don't need to lie and my son likes his family and is happy enough to see them. But they are so hateful and spiteful and very petty.
Even after 7 yrs they recently sent me an email telling me my son would be old enough soon and smart enough to figure out what I am doing to them and doing to him. They have convinced themselves of their own fictional spin.
They at one point told me if they saw their grandson outside their sons visit, it would be helping me, and they won't do that. Why give me a break or an evening off?
I don't have to like them but its my sons family and he enjoys them. And yes I would like an evening off from my 2 jobs and school work.
It makes no sense.
I don't care about "our" shit and we were common law so don't even want to go down that road about who paid what. I gave that up.
BUT relocation?
It's been seven yrs w an interm order that hasn't been valid.
My ex moved out of province then a few yrs later to an even further province. His visitation we agreed to verbally w lawyers was biweekly then when he moved even further HE decided monthly with no discussion or input. Although will do biweekly if its convenient.
Keeping this simple here:
Ex has family in province I am in, And in his visits takes my son for the weekend over night with his parents (sons grandparents).
I have a career and over the seven years struggle in hoping to get N agreement in place as there isn't one, I have continued to go to school and work on my qualifications for a better job eventually elsewhere on e an agreement is in place.
So yes at some point once I get something (trial set for April)
I plan on working on my supports, financials and hope to hook a sweet job in a better warmer province. This is my home province but had moved away for 6 yrs before a visit home and met my ex and stayed.
Either way, what does this all mean?
If I give up my right to relocate what's the chance of me moving?can I apply to court when I'm ready and get the wheels Turning?
My lawyer should have discussed this and was aware that I had intentions of moving and so does my ex over the past few years.
And sure my sons father family is here but they refuse to bother outside of their sons visits. They have very very rarely asked for time and have blamed me for not allowing them access. I have sent numerous emails me posted on family website my openness in trying to accommodate them. I require honest information and disclosure and it in writing.
What another thing my ex is trying to do is introduce his family as back ups.
Back ups for picking up my son from school/dropping off, if he is unable. So this gives him an opening to not bother showing up and his family still having a visit.
Pls if ex was not there for for entire weekend his parents who would be in charge of my son would not rt my son home the first evening or inform me of any issue. They wouldn't even bring my son home Nd I would be clueless.
For one day .... But for 4-5 days? Not a chance I would ever agree.
Plus I have issues with my ex's parents such as the father is distant and authoritarian forced into early retirement for abusive talk to his students (he was a teacher).
My ex's mom was suicidal and had gambling issues, depression etc. stole huge aMounts of money from their retirement.
My ex told me various neglects he suffered in his home like drinking antifreeze r being locked in closet. Ex's mom even went on stress leave from her job and took off out of the country for her months long annual trip not once but at least 2 times. Possible 3!
Exchange student living with family babysitter had sex with ex as 12yr old. Who went on to start experimenting with his first cousin afterwards.
And as an adult this sexual relationship was again picked up (thus part of my ending this relationship)
I just really monitor my son and his happiness and make sure no issues concern me.
They including my ex refuse to provide me parenting information nor consider addressing any parenting concerns.
They have threatened to not return my son and the police have numerous calls but I look like the idiot.
Also my ex and his lawyer are stating the suicidal depression never happened and I am just being an ass. I got various family members this info was disclosed to by ex and his family. My ex is trying to have these details in the parenting agreement/court order.
What's the breakdown on this and what can I do to support myself in this?
Any feedback is appreciative on this.
I need some help since my ex is asking in the court documents to have his family just call and tell me they are taking my son and to have their visits on their own included.
Am I in trouble here? What do I need To do to prove myself?
I don't need to lie and my son likes his family and is happy enough to see them. But they are so hateful and spiteful and very petty.
Even after 7 yrs they recently sent me an email telling me my son would be old enough soon and smart enough to figure out what I am doing to them and doing to him. They have convinced themselves of their own fictional spin.
They at one point told me if they saw their grandson outside their sons visit, it would be helping me, and they won't do that. Why give me a break or an evening off?
I don't have to like them but its my sons family and he enjoys them. And yes I would like an evening off from my 2 jobs and school work.
It makes no sense.
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