I don't think there is much more advice anyone can offer you. From where you stand he is very unreasonable, which we can only beleive because thats what you state, but if this is the case, get a voice recorder of your own and tape all your conversations...better yet, keep all conversations via email, that way you have a paper trail. Make your offers to meet half way via email, then when he declines you have proof that you made an attempt. With the voice recorder you then have proof he turns a civil conversation into a nasty one.
Things will not be easy and you can't force him to get counselling. Its great you and your children are in counselling, but you have to let him deal with his own demons on his own. As hard as it is, bite your tongue and be the nice one. Find a friend you can vent to so you don't have to let your frustration out on him...as I have always said it takes two to fight...he can't fight with himself so if you are nice and civil everytime you are forced to communicated, he can keep complaining but the only one listening will be himself.
Things will not be easy and you can't force him to get counselling. Its great you and your children are in counselling, but you have to let him deal with his own demons on his own. As hard as it is, bite your tongue and be the nice one. Find a friend you can vent to so you don't have to let your frustration out on him...as I have always said it takes two to fight...he can't fight with himself so if you are nice and civil everytime you are forced to communicated, he can keep complaining but the only one listening will be himself.
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