I just needed to vent. I feel very angry about a PM I just recieved from my ex.
Here it is. :
Rowan has never had you. You've been a VISITOR in his life since he was born. You will never be more. Sorry.
I am Rowan's mother. I've been there for him from day one, and always have been. He'd be a wreck without me. you know, I know what's best for him, and I know what he does and does not need. I've never put myself befor ehim, you've been witnes to that time and time again.
He does not need you. He never has, he never will.
You are the one being selfish here it seems. YOU need Rowan. Why? I don't know. Perhaps you need some sort of validation as to whether or not you're a good person. Either way, it doesn't matter. Biology does not a father make.
Rowan hasn't needed you, and won't ever need you. When I go out and see new things with him when Justin's at work, he talks about how much he wants to see Justin and how he wants to show everything to Justin. When he comes back from visiting you, he talks about Auntie Jenny or Grandma Brenda, and even occasionally, Grandpa, but he never ever ever talks about you. Since Rowan was born you've been in and out of his life, and he's never cared. He never will. You have two choices here. You can move to London and see him more often, and continue to be a FRIEND (because you won't ever be much more) to him, or you can move on. I don't even want your child support anymore. When I first told you I was going to leave, you were going to go back on a ship and you were going to be gone from his life. The fact that the people on the ship didn't want you back is all it took to keep you around. I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is. If you continue to convince yourself that you're doing a good job or that Rowan needs you in his life, you're going to be in for a terrible, terrible surprise when Rowan is old enough to truly speak his mind and feelings.
I need a lawyer. Jeff want to take my case?
Here it is. :
Rowan has never had you. You've been a VISITOR in his life since he was born. You will never be more. Sorry.
I am Rowan's mother. I've been there for him from day one, and always have been. He'd be a wreck without me. you know, I know what's best for him, and I know what he does and does not need. I've never put myself befor ehim, you've been witnes to that time and time again.
He does not need you. He never has, he never will.
You are the one being selfish here it seems. YOU need Rowan. Why? I don't know. Perhaps you need some sort of validation as to whether or not you're a good person. Either way, it doesn't matter. Biology does not a father make.
Rowan hasn't needed you, and won't ever need you. When I go out and see new things with him when Justin's at work, he talks about how much he wants to see Justin and how he wants to show everything to Justin. When he comes back from visiting you, he talks about Auntie Jenny or Grandma Brenda, and even occasionally, Grandpa, but he never ever ever talks about you. Since Rowan was born you've been in and out of his life, and he's never cared. He never will. You have two choices here. You can move to London and see him more often, and continue to be a FRIEND (because you won't ever be much more) to him, or you can move on. I don't even want your child support anymore. When I first told you I was going to leave, you were going to go back on a ship and you were going to be gone from his life. The fact that the people on the ship didn't want you back is all it took to keep you around. I'm sorry, but that's just the way it is. If you continue to convince yourself that you're doing a good job or that Rowan needs you in his life, you're going to be in for a terrible, terrible surprise when Rowan is old enough to truly speak his mind and feelings.
I need a lawyer. Jeff want to take my case?
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