I haven't had the experience of a new partner getting in the middle of my divorce proceedings...dealing with my ex is bad enough...but its pretty easy to understand how intrusive and annoying that would be.
Again, longterm...I can imagine it would cause serious and probably irreparable long-term damage in the relationship between adults and children, if they're involved.
Personally, I supported my new partner through his divorce emotionally (it was a fairly quick one) but I would have never gotten involved in the legal particulars. As much as I trust and believe the things he says...I also know marriage is a matter of perspective and there's always two sides. I respected his children and her as the mother of those children and would never do anything to antagonize her. His divorce is really none of my business aside from my post relationship with him and his children.
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Very well said and very true.
I think the issue is that people think divorce is the "end"....when in reality, if you have young children, its just the start of a different ongoing relationship. And when you involve a new partner this way...I'm sure it makes that on-going relationship expontentially more difficult for everyone involved.
Again, longterm...I can imagine it would cause serious and probably irreparable long-term damage in the relationship between adults and children, if they're involved.
Personally, I supported my new partner through his divorce emotionally (it was a fairly quick one) but I would have never gotten involved in the legal particulars. As much as I trust and believe the things he says...I also know marriage is a matter of perspective and there's always two sides. I respected his children and her as the mother of those children and would never do anything to antagonize her. His divorce is really none of my business aside from my post relationship with him and his children.
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Women are nurturers and fixers. We offer empathy, advice and ultimately action what we feel we can fix or help to fix as we tend to have an innate need to ensure everyone is taken care of.
It has little to do with being nosy or controlling, it's an inborn need to take care of those we care about. Not to say that men don't care, they just handle it differently.
It has little to do with being nosy or controlling, it's an inborn need to take care of those we care about. Not to say that men don't care, they just handle it differently.
I think the issue is that people think divorce is the "end"....when in reality, if you have young children, its just the start of a different ongoing relationship. And when you involve a new partner this way...I'm sure it makes that on-going relationship expontentially more difficult for everyone involved.
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