I don't doubt that some new partners can be instrumental (and not mental) in terms of helping with "harmony." That has sadly not been my experience. While I was painted up by the ex, his wife, and his lawyer as the textbook bitter, angry, jaded ex (all unfounded). Funny how it is I (in financial ruin) who can't move on but EX has moved on alright. He will soon destroy his next victim and her family. Not "IF" but WHEN. I wish he had met someone normal but what are the chances of that? He's a psycho. And yes, I know him better than anyone. If I dumped massive debt on someone else and bullshit my way through life, maybe I'd be doing as well as he appears to be. I don't know how to recover from being rripped off sideways. The ripple effects of it are ongoing. I have so many steps to take in an "attempt" to start a financial recovery. The anxiety he has caused me is undescribable. I'm quite surprised I haven't completely broken down from the pressure. You don't know someone til you've lived with them, had kids and then when the shit hits the fan, you find out who you're really dealing with. For some, like myself - it's been a high price to pay. Trying to keep one's sanity often becomes the biggest struggle of all. And to think - I left him. I left an abusive relationship (mostly verbal) and now 5 years later, I'm still bullied financially. Dealing with a fraud bankruptcy, trying to keep my house, dealing with FRO (so far, useless), dealing with a costs order (unpaid). The list goes on and on. There's no easy fix for this mess and definitely no time for relationships.
Yes, I've been told I should move on with my life. I totally agree. I just have no idea "how to." Walk away? Lose my house? Go rent an apartment? Suck it up? Just say "f*ck it?" Not a good idea. Then I really will snap. Not everyone is an asshole but people need to protect themselves better. You just never know what's in store for you down the road. We trust so blindly.
BF you have a good relationship with your partner's kids and that's a good thing. It's good you and his ex-wife can deal with eachother. Just always remember, you haven't walked in her shoes. Nor has she, in yours.
Yes, I've been told I should move on with my life. I totally agree. I just have no idea "how to." Walk away? Lose my house? Go rent an apartment? Suck it up? Just say "f*ck it?" Not a good idea. Then I really will snap. Not everyone is an asshole but people need to protect themselves better. You just never know what's in store for you down the road. We trust so blindly.
BF you have a good relationship with your partner's kids and that's a good thing. It's good you and his ex-wife can deal with eachother. Just always remember, you haven't walked in her shoes. Nor has she, in yours.
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