I sent a letter to my ex in March, giving a month for him to come and collect his personal belongings. Clothing, books, etc. No response.
I sent a second letter in April, giving until May 18th to make the arrangements with a two week grace to actually come and get his things. That would give him until June 1st.
He tried to commit suicide April 17th. He's still in hospital and I am now dealing with his family over all of this. At first, I was told that they would come and get it. I specified that I am willing to be reasonable, but realistically, his stuff needs to get out of here.
Today I am told by his brother that they are trying to come up with the money to hire a mover ($300) as well as rent a storage facility (price unknown) and that they could get his things "maybe by the end of June".
I know they are expecting me to cave in and just keep holding his stuff here. But realistically, I need the space that this pile of boxes is taking up. There is no furniture other then a stand that he came into the relationship with. The furniture, I feel, should be dealt with through the divorce process. So if it wasn't his at the start, it's going to stay here until everything is straightened out. What is out there is clothing, books and other personal belongings and mementos that I want no part of.
I want to be fair and give them the chance, but at the same time, I do feel I've already covered the concept of "fair" in this. Especially when paired with the fact that his mother has now tried to involve the police twice over a period of two weeks regarding all of this. She was told it isn't a police matter at this point and nothing else has come of that since.
It would be nice if there was a clear-cut law about this sort of thing, but as far as I can tell, there isn't.
Any thoughts?
Mona
I sent a second letter in April, giving until May 18th to make the arrangements with a two week grace to actually come and get his things. That would give him until June 1st.
He tried to commit suicide April 17th. He's still in hospital and I am now dealing with his family over all of this. At first, I was told that they would come and get it. I specified that I am willing to be reasonable, but realistically, his stuff needs to get out of here.
Today I am told by his brother that they are trying to come up with the money to hire a mover ($300) as well as rent a storage facility (price unknown) and that they could get his things "maybe by the end of June".
I know they are expecting me to cave in and just keep holding his stuff here. But realistically, I need the space that this pile of boxes is taking up. There is no furniture other then a stand that he came into the relationship with. The furniture, I feel, should be dealt with through the divorce process. So if it wasn't his at the start, it's going to stay here until everything is straightened out. What is out there is clothing, books and other personal belongings and mementos that I want no part of.
I want to be fair and give them the chance, but at the same time, I do feel I've already covered the concept of "fair" in this. Especially when paired with the fact that his mother has now tried to involve the police twice over a period of two weeks regarding all of this. She was told it isn't a police matter at this point and nothing else has come of that since.
It would be nice if there was a clear-cut law about this sort of thing, but as far as I can tell, there isn't.
Any thoughts?
Mona
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