Officially Divorced
I received my Certificate of Divorce on Friday.
The marriage was dissolved by a Judgement that became effective one day before what would have been 26 years married, together over 30, 4 years 8 months after separating.
Feeling mixed emotions. Separating has been good for me on a personal level, as an individual, but tough financially and at times difficult with the kids.
5 years ago I was asked to think about what would matter to me 5 years from then. Although at the time I couldn't predict how I would feel, I can now say, that most of what upset me then, doesn't matter now.
Ex. was sending all kinds of crappy e-mails, sometimes phoning, I never answered one e-mail and ended phone conversations by telling him I wasn't discussing the matter with him, he was usually yelling at the time. And no, I don't believe this prolonged the process. Sometimes even his own lawyer told him to be quiet and stop talking because he was making the situation worse.
Sometimes it is lonely, not 1 former friend has spoken to me since and I am finding it difficult to form new friendships, but I would not go back to that relationship, ever. The relationship was sucking the life out of me. I would not change the fact that we were married, I have 3 of the most incredible kids ever and since separating I have found that I am a pretty good person.
I received my Certificate of Divorce on Friday.
The marriage was dissolved by a Judgement that became effective one day before what would have been 26 years married, together over 30, 4 years 8 months after separating.
Feeling mixed emotions. Separating has been good for me on a personal level, as an individual, but tough financially and at times difficult with the kids.
5 years ago I was asked to think about what would matter to me 5 years from then. Although at the time I couldn't predict how I would feel, I can now say, that most of what upset me then, doesn't matter now.
Ex. was sending all kinds of crappy e-mails, sometimes phoning, I never answered one e-mail and ended phone conversations by telling him I wasn't discussing the matter with him, he was usually yelling at the time. And no, I don't believe this prolonged the process. Sometimes even his own lawyer told him to be quiet and stop talking because he was making the situation worse.
Sometimes it is lonely, not 1 former friend has spoken to me since and I am finding it difficult to form new friendships, but I would not go back to that relationship, ever. The relationship was sucking the life out of me. I would not change the fact that we were married, I have 3 of the most incredible kids ever and since separating I have found that I am a pretty good person.
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