Judge ordered OCL to, in his words, ask the kids what they want, 9,11 yrl. Couldn't agree more cause the hole world even CAS and their MOTHER know what my children want and that,s 50/50. . Although I don,t agree with her entourage and parenting skills, not that she doesn't have any, she just doesn,t use them, the kids love her and they are safe with her ( I hope ). I am a firm supporter of at lease joint or shared custody as long as the parents are conpetent. Like the Judge said ITS ABOUT THE KIDS, and I don,t know either of you so I can,t make a judgement today. What a reasonable smart older judge, see their not all bad.
I am pissed at the CAS though. Turns out This Plan of action to help my ex and I communicate better was going to be used against me. CAS came up with a plan of action that is suppose to give us guidelines on communicating for the kids purpuses. Turn out my name is the only one on it??? After a few questions to my CAS worker directed to the paragraph where it said I abused the kids ( one of 3 or 4 with only my name in it, and all others are directed to both of us, she,s not mentioned once) I denied abusing my kids and reminded her that she heard an audio of the kids telling me their mother gave them information from the interim agreement that only WE are suppose to know about and I don,t see my ex's name beside mine. I also asked her who had said that and replied from my ex and the kids. Isn,t she suppose to keep that private? My son admited already to CAS that i may have spanked his butt once and doesn,t remember when, even if its true once in 11 years, my daughter also admited to them I never abused her either. Still waiting for a call back to set up an appointement regarding this issue.
Turns out that PLAN OF ACTION was right there in front of her with highlighted paragraphs. Would you beleive those highlighted paragraph wich I could see from my side corresponded to the those were I was accused of abusing my children and other questionable claims,ready to be used against me...... After all it is exactly what she claimed in her defence??????. How handy is it to come up with information, true or false, like this a week before court date. CAS claim they do not involve them selves in custody battles unless requested or have serious issues with abuse or violence. Doesn,t this mean that they have inderectly involved themselves knowingly or not? How come I knew it was going to happen as I mentioned to her and she didn,t?????
Things are looking up and keeping my kids in mind.
am I out to lunch on this one.
Any honest, smart, non abusive opinions out there?????
One frustrated but focused Dad.
I am pissed at the CAS though. Turns out This Plan of action to help my ex and I communicate better was going to be used against me. CAS came up with a plan of action that is suppose to give us guidelines on communicating for the kids purpuses. Turn out my name is the only one on it??? After a few questions to my CAS worker directed to the paragraph where it said I abused the kids ( one of 3 or 4 with only my name in it, and all others are directed to both of us, she,s not mentioned once) I denied abusing my kids and reminded her that she heard an audio of the kids telling me their mother gave them information from the interim agreement that only WE are suppose to know about and I don,t see my ex's name beside mine. I also asked her who had said that and replied from my ex and the kids. Isn,t she suppose to keep that private? My son admited already to CAS that i may have spanked his butt once and doesn,t remember when, even if its true once in 11 years, my daughter also admited to them I never abused her either. Still waiting for a call back to set up an appointement regarding this issue.
Turns out that PLAN OF ACTION was right there in front of her with highlighted paragraphs. Would you beleive those highlighted paragraph wich I could see from my side corresponded to the those were I was accused of abusing my children and other questionable claims,ready to be used against me...... After all it is exactly what she claimed in her defence??????. How handy is it to come up with information, true or false, like this a week before court date. CAS claim they do not involve them selves in custody battles unless requested or have serious issues with abuse or violence. Doesn,t this mean that they have inderectly involved themselves knowingly or not? How come I knew it was going to happen as I mentioned to her and she didn,t?????
Things are looking up and keeping my kids in mind.
am I out to lunch on this one.
Any honest, smart, non abusive opinions out there?????
One frustrated but focused Dad.
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