hi everyone,
I'm beginning to wonder if I'm being unreasonable in my request for full guideline and split after school care costs and would love your input.
My STBX works evenings/nights, Sunday night to Friday morning. He is unable to take them overnight Sunday to Thursday due to work.
He has been suggesting schedules that will allow him to get close to or just hit 60/40 time share, but they feel like him simply trying to piece together time to hit that threshold.
For example, his last proposed schedule involved him having the kids two weekends in a row and I the third weekend. He said he'd take on the responsibility of dropping the kids off at school in the morning and offered to be "on call" if they get sick during the day 3 days a week. This allows him to "get credit" for the daytime school hours.
In that three week schedule rotation, there is only every week Thursday evening time with the kids (other than weekend evening time of course). I feel like for the most part he'll basically be shuttling them off in the morning and get all of 10-15 minutes with them. I will still have to get them ready in the morning so he can pick them up, most likely get them breakfast and lunch, and definitely do dinners as they'll be back with me after school, and he wants to call that equal/shared parenting.
Additionally, I don't want to give up every other weekend. This schedule only works out to 60/40 if he gets two weekends in a row in a three week rotation.
I understand he will be stretched financially, so I offered to not request S7 expenses other than after school care. I am prepared to cover the cost of sports (which includes rep hockey). I am literally only asking for:
He has declined this.
I'm worried to pursue this legally though as I really could do without the additional legal fees. However, his attempts to share time definitely feel disingenuous.
Thoughts? Is this worth pursuing.
Somewhat related, I have let him know if/when his work schedule changes, I'm happy to go to a proper 50/50 split and of course child support will no longer apply.
I am not seeking spousal as our salaries are comparable.
I'm beginning to wonder if I'm being unreasonable in my request for full guideline and split after school care costs and would love your input.
My STBX works evenings/nights, Sunday night to Friday morning. He is unable to take them overnight Sunday to Thursday due to work.
He has been suggesting schedules that will allow him to get close to or just hit 60/40 time share, but they feel like him simply trying to piece together time to hit that threshold.
For example, his last proposed schedule involved him having the kids two weekends in a row and I the third weekend. He said he'd take on the responsibility of dropping the kids off at school in the morning and offered to be "on call" if they get sick during the day 3 days a week. This allows him to "get credit" for the daytime school hours.
In that three week schedule rotation, there is only every week Thursday evening time with the kids (other than weekend evening time of course). I feel like for the most part he'll basically be shuttling them off in the morning and get all of 10-15 minutes with them. I will still have to get them ready in the morning so he can pick them up, most likely get them breakfast and lunch, and definitely do dinners as they'll be back with me after school, and he wants to call that equal/shared parenting.
Additionally, I don't want to give up every other weekend. This schedule only works out to 60/40 if he gets two weekends in a row in a three week rotation.
I understand he will be stretched financially, so I offered to not request S7 expenses other than after school care. I am prepared to cover the cost of sports (which includes rep hockey). I am literally only asking for:
- guideline support
- split after school care
He has declined this.
I'm worried to pursue this legally though as I really could do without the additional legal fees. However, his attempts to share time definitely feel disingenuous.
Thoughts? Is this worth pursuing.
Somewhat related, I have let him know if/when his work schedule changes, I'm happy to go to a proper 50/50 split and of course child support will no longer apply.
I am not seeking spousal as our salaries are comparable.
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