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Originally posted by Berner_Faith View PostA better way would be to look at your financial situation and see how you can cut back. A claim for hardship is extremely hard and all incomes will be taken into account, including the CS payments you are receiving... things would be a lot easier to comment on, if you posted approximate numbers.
I understand things change, but before your husband tries to shrink his responsibilities, you need to ensure you have done all you can to cut your expenses... do you have cable? Do you require cable? Do you have a home phone? Could you live with just a cell phone? Are you spending a lot on extras during the month? Have you actually sat down and wrote out a detailed budget?
I did this just 3 weeks ago and I was SHOCKED at what we were spending in a month. Go to Google and type in "You Need a Budget" a great program you can download to help you work out a detailed and accurate budget.
Please know, if you are looking for accurate advice, where people are not jumping to conclusions, you must provide accurate information, if you don't, you look like a new partner trying to reduce your husband's CS obligations to his first priority.
Hi,
Thank you for your response.
I would hope that people would try and keep an open mind and understand that not every person is sleazy.
I personally feel the child support guidelines are out of whack.
I can tell you, that my husband is not "shrinking" his responsibilities. If you compare what he pays in cs, compared to what we spend on our children here, it doesn't even compare. We could not afford to pay out that much money on each child.
I have never posted to anything like this, so I wish I had of included more detail. I just didn't even know where to start.
I am uncomfortable with putting my income online, but I can tell you that I did the undue hardship calculation (I actually had my lawyer do it up last May as well). Basically you end up with a percentage, our percentage was drastically lower than his ex's. Which shows that our standard of living is much lower than his ex's. That is really all anybody needed to know.
Trust me, I have cut back, I shop for food later at night after they mark stuff down half price, we clip coupons, and our house rule is buy on sale, and only if it is a "need". I have four kids living here, cutting cable or internet isn't really an option. My two kids need a home phone with long distance so they can call their father and family back home. We never go out, never. I don't buy clothes for myself, my kids come first. Cutback should have been my middle name.
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Originally posted by arabian View PostYeah I'm a real money grabber.
Honey from the sounds of it you couldn't get a nickel or a dime out of your ex even if you tried.
You really know how to pick em don't you?
Breeder.
Do you even have a job???
And "honey" even if I was going to leave my husband, I wouldn't suck him dry, like i'm sure you did. I'm not with him for the money. It is people like you that make me want to "breed" more, hopefully squeeze the stupid out of this world. Where is that trailer you crawled out of? Go back!
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Originally posted by dinkyface View PostSorry, you lost me with 5 kids ... gym membership ... undue hardship.
I'm not sure if you are trying to be rude, and I hope not, because there have been some really $hitty people on here so far. All I was looking for was advice, not their own personal drama. The arabian thing is a real number.
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Originally posted by Tayken View PostAnd to add to that list the hurling of insults...
I wish people would take questions and just think about it for a second. Think before they speak, or pretend the person is in front of you.
I am a good person, I was just looking for some advice, not to be treated like crap.
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I can empathize that you feel frustrated because it is very difficult to make ends meet when you have a family of 5 kids and are on a limited budget.
But the posters here are trying to ask you some "hard" questions that ultimately will be asked when and if you decide to proceed on this claim of undue hardship. They would not be doing you any favors if they only told you what you wanted to hear. Try and not take it personally, they don't know you or your situation as well as you do. They are only responding to the information you are presenting and the way in which you are presenting it. Use their responses to better frame your own argument.Last edited by Nadia; 09-27-2012, 10:00 PM.
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Originally posted by Berner_Faith View PostThe fact is, all 5 kids are now in the picture, at the time the 2 new ones were born, they had a stable home environment, but something happened that changed that (which sometimes happens even with intact families), let's just focus one helping, rather than insulting the childrens mother...
Thank you.
My husband and I both have excellent jobs, and we are an intact family. We have always worked. We just had some unfortunate financial changes that happened after the custody/cs was decided. Some we knew were going to happen, advised our lawyer and she told us we could do nothing until we were actually impacted. We unfortunately had bad council and no options.
We are not some low life scum that crawled out from under a rock. We have a responsibility to all of our children. This isn't something we are happy about, but it is what it is and we have to think about ALL of our children. Why should one child be eating steak and the rest eat Kraft dinner?
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Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post1. Of course we didn't have the $11,000, but the bank did, and they like the interest it is collecting.
74. Accordingly the Applicant shall pay to the Respondent costs of this trial fixed in the sum of $11,500.00 inclusive of fees, disbursements and HST.Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post2. The cs was part of it, but at the time we did not qualify for undue hardship, our circumstances drastically changed. It was custody for his son.
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post3. Sorry, two part "step" Step 8: dealing with undue hardship - The Federal Child Support Guidelines: Step-by-Step
This publication is not a legal document. It contains general information and is provided for convenience and guidance in applying the Federal Child Support Guidelines.
© Her Majesty the Queen in Right of Canada (2012)
(Minister of Justice and Attorney General of Canada)
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View PostBasically, we qualify, but will it even matter is more what I am curious about.
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post4. Our idiot lawyer told us we had to do it this way. We have since let her go.
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post5. We don't need a financial consultant, our only debt is the legal fees.
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View PostOur issues are, we have lost about $2,000 in our monthly income since this all happened. We have tried, you can't get blood from a stone. His ex did not legally qualify, she lied and said her bf did not live with her, but he did. She committed fraud with legal aid/social assistance/EI and issuance.
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post6. I'm not sure why you asked what my and my husband's income is?? You would actually need our income and their income, with our undue hardship details to even begin to be able to comment on this. We do have proof that her bf is living there at this time though.
Originally posted by Unevenplayingground View Post7. We did have a lawyer, who unfortunately did more work for his ex. We tried to hire a new lawyer, I literally called every lawyer in that small town. There was a big court blitz going on, and nobody was taking on new cases until the blitz was over. It was absolutely crazy. Our lawyer was a wonderful person to talk to, but having to pay her for her so called "work" was horrible. This entire system is shameful. I see why bad things happen to children after this experience. And there is nothing we can do to help his son now.
Good Luck!
Tayken
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I'm honestly gobsmacked here.
I, for one, am not about to waste my time giving advice to people who are so adept at abusing the system. There are many, many people out there who genuinely need legal advice. I am stunned that you actually have access to a lawyer.
I will continue to go in in life and give money to charity knowing that it helps the children of people like you. Very, very sad. You are living in a "welfare mentality" and raising children to go through life expecting everyone else to look after them. Take some basic parenting courses. Learn how to budget your expenses. Try not to sleep around indiscriminately. You should be able to support every child you bring into the world yourself. Relying on a bunch a losers for the rest of your life is simply stupid.
If you want to go on a forum which is called "Ottawa Divorce Forum" you had better toughen up. If you want sympathy get a dog or access some of that wonderful free counselling.
You get absolutely no sympathy from me.
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