we were finally served with a motion regarding the 3 children from my husband's previous marriage. my husband has had sole interim custody for 6 years and ex has had limited acces per a recommendation from the children's lawyers office 4 years ago. relevant background info: ex alleged sex abuse claims agains myself (stepmother) related to youngest son who was six at the time. ex was planning on filing for custody based on allegations, and i reported allegations to CAS in order to have an investigation. CAS investigated and deemed allegations false and hence no motion at that time. husband and myself were in adoption classess with same cas with hopes of adding to our family (no coincidence allegations made during that time frame). CAS agreed to allow our family to pursue adoption as they stated we were obviously quite resilient and handled the situation very well. we have since adopted one year ago. new motion includes significant allegations of emotional abuse of step children. included is a letter from a counselor (ba of education and not belonging to any professional college) in which 3 sessions with 12 year old step son and mother was reported. some very horrendous lies were told by 12 year old, and counselor alleging significan emotional abuse of children in home. counselor relayed being aware that mother was non custodial parent and disregarded the fact that 12 year old has high functioning autism as a false diagnoses. 12 year old has had dx of autism since age 3, most recently high functioning autism as result of lengthy psycho educational assessment 2 years ago. very very bright intelligent child, but with difficulties in communicating at a higher level. 12 year old is devastated that letter was submitted to court about his sessions. 12 year old admits to lying but really is like a deer caught in the headlights. 12 year old has always stated that when in this home he wants to live here, but when visiting his mother he does want to and tells her he wants to live with her. counseling has been offered here, but not taken. btw- husband obviously did not consent to counseling for son. 15 year old daughter also went through similar pressures at same age and counseling provided. daugther did say she also told lies to mother about living in this home but stated this was becasue she fealth myself and husband to be "stong enought to handle" the lies and feared mother would commite suicide or be hospitalized in mental hospital. (very significant mental health issues). 15 year old has since decided she does NOT want to live with mother and has made that very clear to both sides. no doubt 12 year old now experiencing same dilemna but does not have the communications skills to deal with appropriately. questions: can we have the letter inadmissable as no consent provided . 12 year old stated he signed no consent or confidentiality forms. 12 year old states he does not want to go to another counselor (for good reason). the allegations from mom are consistent throughout the years, biggest upset would be the letter from the counselor. unsure of what to do next. CAS i am positive has been informed, and as per previous (many) complaint probably made it clear they would not get involved in a custody battle. plus CAS has been extremely supportive of our current family.
thanks in advance
thanks in advance
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