How bad does it have to get before a judge will reduce access time?
We have been in turmoil since my ex got into a relationship with someone I suspect has a personality disorder and is very high conflict.
I have three years of documented incidents. Just in the past month:
- They just informed me (the night before school started) that the kids cannot stay with them during covid because my ex's partner has asthma and the kids are back at school.
- They changed the school address from my house to their house without my knowledge. I did not know and now my kids are not eligible to take the bus and we will have to wait for a spot. The address has always been my house (in the school district) and the kids have taken the bus for the past three years.
- They called the police to our house over a two hour change in the pick up time for my son to play with his team. They originally agreed to the schedule change but then changed their mind an hour before the pick up. The police did nothing but said my ex's new partner is the problem because of her behavior.
- My son fell off his bike and my ex did not get medical attention. I took him to a hospital and physio and he is healing after a few weeks. The doctor originally thought it was broken but ended up being bruised.
- They lost my son's retainer and did not tell me. They do not arrange any appointments or let them go on their time and now are refusing to pay any portion of the costs.
- The kids are constantly being put in the middle and my oldest son has started to stay at my house more because he "needs a break" from my ex's partner.
My ex has said he will not go to court. We are working off of a separation agreement we put in place when things were amicable. We recently tried mediation but got nowhere and my ex does not want to spend any more money.
At this point, my question is, how much is too much? Should we go to court and fight for a change?
We have been in turmoil since my ex got into a relationship with someone I suspect has a personality disorder and is very high conflict.
I have three years of documented incidents. Just in the past month:
- They just informed me (the night before school started) that the kids cannot stay with them during covid because my ex's partner has asthma and the kids are back at school.
- They changed the school address from my house to their house without my knowledge. I did not know and now my kids are not eligible to take the bus and we will have to wait for a spot. The address has always been my house (in the school district) and the kids have taken the bus for the past three years.
- They called the police to our house over a two hour change in the pick up time for my son to play with his team. They originally agreed to the schedule change but then changed their mind an hour before the pick up. The police did nothing but said my ex's new partner is the problem because of her behavior.
- My son fell off his bike and my ex did not get medical attention. I took him to a hospital and physio and he is healing after a few weeks. The doctor originally thought it was broken but ended up being bruised.
- They lost my son's retainer and did not tell me. They do not arrange any appointments or let them go on their time and now are refusing to pay any portion of the costs.
- The kids are constantly being put in the middle and my oldest son has started to stay at my house more because he "needs a break" from my ex's partner.
My ex has said he will not go to court. We are working off of a separation agreement we put in place when things were amicable. We recently tried mediation but got nowhere and my ex does not want to spend any more money.
At this point, my question is, how much is too much? Should we go to court and fight for a change?
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