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Old 10-21-2011, 10:05 PM
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I was married in may 2010 and my husband assauted me in Jan 2011. As we were in the process of building a new home, he moved to it as we were not to see each other until June of 2011. We tried to move back together but the damage was done. I then left the matrionmoinal home. I had a home previously and had owned for 16 years. in July he gave me a black eye and i tried to hide it. My daughters reported the incident to police but i avoided them as i was embarrassed. In sept he phoned as he had been to a lawyer and wanted to talk as his lawyer wanted 15,000 as a retainer. I have his papers from the lawyer as he dropped them on his way out after sitting on the couch smugly informing me that he would contest my will, and that I would have to pay him support as I make more then him and would have to cut him a check in the end. I repeatedly asked him to leave as I was shaking and stunned. I pretended to call the police and he backhanded me and asked if I was calling the police. i hung up and dialed 911 and he took the phone and left. The police arrived and they found my phone outside. He was charged and now I am advised to go for a divorce on the grounds of cruelty. Does the law provide that I pay for being abused? I have tried to search on the internet, but can't seem to find the right site that provides the answer.
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Old 10-21-2011, 10:21 PM
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Sounds like you are older and brought assets to marriage. Did he?
SS is complicated and INCOME based - how different are your incomes?
for the last 3 years?
You dont have children together? You have kids? Does he? Did they live with you? He MAY have to pay CS to you - as you were married and raising children (OK a stretch)
This is all really expensive - 25k each w/o a custody dispute (250 / hour)
How much of family assets are in his hands - how much in yours?
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Old 10-21-2011, 10:38 PM
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SS is complicated, however you were together a VERY short time and if he worked and was able to support himself the entire time then the chances are good that he would get little to nothing AND only for a VERY short period of time.

What happened to you is terrible but you're now free...try not to stress about the money too much. Good luck.
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SS is complicated, however you were together a VERY short time and if he worked and was able to support himself the entire time then the chances are good that he would get little to nothing AND only for a VERY short period of time.

What happened to you is terrible but you're now free...try not to stress about the money too much. Good luck.
Agreed - sometimes I get lost in minutia
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Old 10-22-2011, 12:00 AM
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Sounds like you are older and brought assets to marriage. Did he?
SS is complicated and INCOME based - how different are your incomes?
for the last 3 years?
You dont have children together? You have kids? Does he? Did they live with you? He MAY have to pay CS to you - as you were married and raising children (OK a stretch)
This is all really expensive - 25k each w/o a custody dispute (250 / hour)
How much of family assets are in his hands - how much in yours?
he brought nothing, as i said i was not thinking. i am a nurse and should have seen it but we take care of people and think we can fix everything. We have a 200,000 mortgage in both are names on the new house, i have a line of credit in my name for 80,000, which was used to purchase the property and final touchups that the mortgage did not cover. My house/his now, in my name only, is mortgage free and worth approx 200,000 but is in major disrepair as the flooring is half done , the roof needs fixing, i heat with wood and it must have decreased in value, i need to have an evaluation done. Note to self. my kyds are all in college and university. We have only one joint account for the mortgage payment which he makes as i take care of the LOC and my expenses. I put money into savings every month which is figured into my assets. Don't know if u can say this, WTF.. i think if he assaulted me, i should not have to cough over my savings. He became very secretative and i think he scammed money into his personal account when we got the mortgage installment for buliding. i almost feel i am typing to much, but after reading some of the posts, i find this a friendly site and real people, real situations , life at its finest, holy F.
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Old 10-22-2011, 12:09 AM
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i went to the bank and i almost wish he would default on the payments and just end the mortgage, too much to think about. getting divorced is like having a 2nd job, and it affects the 1st job. Hard to concentrate. My credit rating would be affected, but wtf, better than to live with this nightmare.
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Old 10-22-2011, 12:09 AM
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he would never qualify for the mortgage on his own, Help!
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Old 10-22-2011, 12:14 AM
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he didn't work, just building the house, then he told me he wanted the easy life, i guess i am a good catch, nurse, truck, motorcyle, full time job, savings, but he was a good talker..... and i fell for it,
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Old 10-22-2011, 12:16 AM
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i'm venting, over tired, house is falling apart, have to go to a 2 day seminar on my days off, stress at its finest!
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Old 10-22-2011, 12:22 AM
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Clarify this. Did you two last live in the new house with the large mortgage? But you still own your old home? In which case your old home is yours, not the matrimonial home. The new home with the mortgage is the mat home.

So he gets half of next to nothing, you keep your primary asset.

Even if you both haven't lived in the newer home you have a very strong argument to make that it is the mat home, with his name on the mortgage and such a short marriage.
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